TRIGGER WARNING - RAPE

[Reno18]

I’ve recently started talking to someone who I have known for many years but we lost contact and have reconnected. We both really like each other and are planning to meet up (we live 3 hours apart and both have children and jobs). Seven years ago I was raped by someone I know. I don’t think about it very much and have had therapy since (for that and a DV ex relationship) but it’s really been playing on my mind the last day or so and I feel like I need to tell the person I’m talking to so everything is out in the open although I don’t know why because the only people who know about it happening is one of my best friends and my therapist. I guess my question is do I tell him? I have other close friends and family that I haven’t told but I feel like I need to tell him.

I'm sorry that happened to you.

I think in that instance I'd wait until you see each other face to face and get to know each other a bit better first before you make a decision.

I wonder if it would be helpful to talk through the need to tell him with a therapist. Is that an option? So you can understand why you feel like this? As that might help you decide too.

@Wordau thank you for replying. Yes that’s an option to speak to a therapist and I think waiting is a good idea, I just don’t understand why I have this urge to tell him, I’ve never had it before to tell anyone else.