Reporting perpetrators to domestic abuse service what actually happens?

[twentytwentyfour2024]

Hi,

Posted about my friend previously. She's contacted a domestic abuse service (reasons too long to list) - anyway, before now she was too scared to give the perpetrators name because they share a child she didn't want to have it down on their child's dads record what he'd done to her. Now she's ready but is still scared what happens next. The man is volatile. Big long criminal history (please don't ask why she went there. She was young and child free when they got together only intended to be a bit of fun apparently) anyway, do the domestic abuse services put it in the man's criminal record? Do the police get told? Is there some kind of system that the DV service use to see how dangerous the man is who committed the offences and if he is dangerous (this man is extremely dangerous) then do they flag it to police? She's worried and doesn't want to give the name til she knows so I said I'd ask on here for her. Thanks.

She doesn't need to tell the DV services anything about him. They're there to support her.

I suggest however that she gets as much supporting evidence as she can.

She really needs to work out a safety plan asap if he's that volitile.

She can have a chat using women's aid web chat service and ask as many questions as she likes. She doesn't have to give any details of either of them.

Sorry I didn't explain myself properly here. So she was getting help with a service (she needed help with counselling and housing. Accommodation) but they wouldn't help her progress further unless she gave the perpetrators name? It sounds very weird to me like why would they NEED it to progress? I get her concerns but also think she needs to give it and who cares what happens (not that I can say this to her!)

I have no idea. Do you have anymore details?

She should be encouraged to report it to the police. The police will then investigate, which is the only way anything can be recorded on any official record. DV services don't keep a database of abusive men. They can access police records through MARAC meetings but they don't hold that information themselves. If she's worried about the information being linked to her child if she gives his name, that's already happened as she's also a link to her child.

I mentioned that to her and she freaked out bless her. It's all very sad.

She did a questionnaire to see if they needed to hold a MARAC meeting but she didn't score high as she's now away from him. Can MARAC meetings be held for any other reason? He isn't dangerous to their child please be advised that's a separate thing. He's dangerous to her. Abusive controlling narcissistic etc. he has got somewhat violent in the past.

MARAC is only for high risk domestic abuse perpetrators. If she didn't score high enough that sounds a bit odd - they ask about incident in the past year and if you've left in the past year that also raises the risk. Did she answer it all honestly?

He is a risk to the child if he's a risk to her. You can't separate them out.