Does anyone know anything about stalkers?

[Peanut2345]

I'm really freaked again :(

Years and years ago I went on a date.
He was unsettling.
He started bombarding me with messages, calls, everything. I never ever replied. But it would be sexual, images, vile stuff, then nasty. I ended up getting police involved.

I deleted all social media. Even now, every year or two I get a call from an unknown number and it's him, so I hang up. A year later I've now got another message from an unknown number..him again.

Why why? Why after 6 years of zero communication from me other then police and only meeting once. Why does he message once a year or two from unknown numbers? I don't get it at all but it really freaks me out.

They are fixated. I would change your number or block unknown callers on your phone. You can contact the National Stalking Helpline for advice.

I had a stalker too.
It’s terrifying, isn’t it?
My stalker called my parents and threatened to kill them.
He was my landlord, and he spray-painted vile words on his own house while I was renting from him.
It got worse & worse & worse until he threatened to kill the police and sheriffs and then they decided he was a threat, so they arrested him and he was convicted and sentenced to prison.
During his incarceration, I moved and changed my # and got everything removed from publicly available records.
If you are at all concerned about your safety, I’d suggest that you do the same.

It absolutely sucks but I think changing your number is your best bet. Carry on reporting it each time as well.
Does he have your address? What does he say on the calls?

No I moved a few times 😅 but I just panic he will find it. As even when I tried social media again, all private he always finds it. So I have none now.

I think I will have to change number, it's just everything is attached to it and I don't know how to change it on some accounts 😅
Unfortunately doctors tend to call on private numbers and that sometimes comes up as unknown. Ugh just throws me into a tail spin and I feel unsafe and get paranoid. His behaviour is so erratic and unhinged. I wasn't sure if police would be interested logging a message or call I block each year? I have kids now so it makes me more terrified nowadays.

That's awful :( they're so slow to act. You must have been so terrified 😭😭 xx

Hiya @Peanut2345 I'd definitely log with the police and ask for advice.

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.

Not promising it will happen for you but it's worth asking...the police are very dismissive unless you're wanting to make a report in general. The online chat is easier if you're really unsure just querying etc. you can just create the file with them and add logs to it without a big fuss depending on how you feel obviously and you can have a marker on your address too! I wouldn't say that he deffo doesn't know youre address or act too unsure either just trust your gut with the vibes of the call handler or online chat the long way round and sense them before you say what you want to say. I know I sound ridiculous but i deem it just the same as d/v but it goes from just wanting to make a simple log to two officers at the front door at al hours sometimes and much as I appreciated the effort we all know it's typical not to rely on in a crisis. Touch wood. X

Oh. You can leave a note on your gp records too just to pre warn them about private numbers. They can send txts these days and there's an nhs app where you can access all your gp records appointments phone calls even hospital stuff even for your kids if all at same gp. And if you go into your network provider say 02 for example there's people there all day that love that transferring phone info stuff probs talk you into buying something though they are brilliant sales buggers xx

You can get an order of some kind but it's so complicated reading through them all and figuring it out on your own you can apply for help with fees and follow the process but it's not as simple as it should be. I'm pretty sure if you know his name and date of birth if you have enough info to assure who he is there's one that can be put on him without court attendance he won't know any of your details but he will know it was you I would of thought x