Best friend had no intention of paying me back

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I was vunrable when I received a criminal injury payment (4 years ago) I told my best friend. She immediately asked to loan £1000 for her child's holy communion which was later in the year.

My mental health deteriorated and the year flew by and I was hesitant to ask so I waited another 6-8 months...

She was always buying new things and 'pleaded poverty' constantly so there where always reasons she couldn't pay anything off her debt.

My mental health deteriorated again over the next 1-2 years and I needed the £1000 back.

I knew I'd never get anything back so asked my dad if he could take over the loan and give her more time to pay. He gave her over a year and she paid him back over 2 years... well, other than the final amount of £200.

The day after he asked for it back I started to receive abusive messages from her partner and then they decided to ring my father and give him abuse and randomly make up lies about me to portray me in a bad light.

She came to my house with her mother carrying a bag full of pennies (£170 worth) and claimed my dad had threatened her with "gangsters"
My dad is a retired and as a ex surveyor, believe me, he knows no gangsters

I blocked and deleted her from all ways of contacting me after she left.

I can't get over why my best friend of 20 years would prey? On me when I was vulnerable then have no intention of paying me back?

Sorry for the long rant and the grammatical errors lol.

Does anyone have an alternative perspective or can possibly offer any insight please?

To be blunt, some people are just not nice and they don’t care. I’m not saying your best friend isn’t nice, but borrowing a large sum of money and causing friction when having to pay it back is not very considerate.

Never lend large amounts of money you’re not happy to gift, incase you don’t get it back.

To be honest you did get most of it back, so it’s done now, learn from it and move on. Don’t waste anymore head space on this, it’s normal for friends, even best ones, to come and go through life.

The first answer has it. Some people are not nice people.

I’ve come to learn in life friends are not necessarily there forever . People change , circumstances change and sometimes the friendship just runs it’s course. I also have learned if you lend money don’t think you will get it back because some people have no integrity of paying it back . Your friend is not your friend. Try and not think of her anymore , regard it as you are well rid of her . She is not worth your head space . Move on and good luck .

Because some people act disgusting over money. I also was robbed by my ex of 4yrs, two ex bestfriends, my brother and my cousin over money.
You will always be the problem because you tried to help them out and wanted your money back. For some reason with these types you wanting the money back is an issue