Child good abuse

[Towwanthustice]

I'm going to give a bit of context whilst trying to keep it short.
I'm in my 50"s now and mother is in her 70"s.
I had an awful traumatic, neglectful upbringing. My sister was sexually abused by our dad and both physically abused. Medical needs not looked after, always scruffy alway starving. You get the picture. I left home in my early 20s and we haven't spoke since. I' went down the positive route of good education and jobs (but controlling men) whearas my sister fell into all sorts of bad situations, alcohol, depression etc..
My mother knew of all the abuse and chose him she didn't protect us.

I have just found out my father died a few yrs ago and I feel angry. Angry that I was too scared to report him. However I have now reported her. She will be accused of neglect and allowing sexual offences. (We were brought up in a very sexual background).

I don't feel better or worse for reporting it I think about it all day and it keeps me awake (the memories). My sister is currently processing it all (I told her but we don't get on and prior to this alhavent spoke to for a lot of years)°

Shoukd I have just moved on as I may be opening a huge can if worms or will some sort of justice make me feel better in the long term and
Any words of advice?

[Jux]

I'm so sorry you had that childhood, you and your sister both. It was wrong, utterly wrong and should not have been like that.

Have you tried counselling, talking about it, letting all your feelings out - and it's clear you must have gritted your teeth and shunted it aside,as you've done well; it can help you move on to unbutton it all in a safe place to a safe person?

I think you have to do what feels right to you, vis a vis reporting your mother. Let it continue unless you come to feel the need to put a stop to it (no experise in this area obvs), but people withdraw complaints etc often so you probably could.

Seek a counsellor you feel some affinity with, and talk about it there. Get your feelings dealt with, and see what happens is my advice.

But I know nothing, I must underline that.

[Towwanthustice]

Thank you for replying.
I've had much counselling for different stuff but I've never be able to talk about the abuse and kept it deeply hidden.

I know this is what I need to do..
Thank you for taking the time to comment