Potential Offence TW sexual

[stupidstupidstupidgirl]

I've had to report coercive, controlling behaviour to the police from an ex-partner. This person is threatening to destroy my life and has made it clear he hates that I have escaped his control.

Anyway, about a year ago we were having sex and I asked him to stop as it was hurting me, he carried on regardless and said something like 'I'll make it hurt more and then you'll feel it' - at the time it scared me and was quite sinister. I asked him about this about 6 weeks later as it was on my mind.

He completely denied anything - luckily it was by message so have it all logged.

So in the report I've made I said about this incident and they said it's rape and I have got a sexual offence police officer to contact me.

I'm so frightened about what he could do that I don't know whether to go ahead with this rape report or not.

What should I do? I want to report it so this person doesn't get to ruin anyone else's life but I'm terrified about him ruining mine further.

I don’t have any advice as it’s outside my experience. But I do know what it’s like to controlled and bullied by an ex, and the fear involved.

Im sure you don’t have to make a decision right away. Hopefully someone will come along with some advice.

Best of luck.

I've been in a situation like this and as woman I think we down play it alot but it's rape... even if when we started it was consensual it's still rape halfway through if we say stop and they don't but a lot of the Times women say nothing