Hiya I need someone advice if anyone has been in this situation before , I would appreciate no judgment please i do already know I was wrong and iv been an anxious mess ever since I know it’s long but please any advice would be great
I’m 26 years old with a little girl me and my ex split up September of 2021 we had a good relationship no arguments or anything and I made a big sacrifice for him and moved to a different area into a new house to suit him for his job any he broke up with me one day completely out of the blue I was devasted had to leave the house and move back in with my mum
2 month later he came back saying he was sorry and that he still loved me we started talking again for 7 weeks and he asked me over to his house and we spent the weekend together that was December of 2021 I came home and everything was fine for a week after that and then he just randomly ignored me for 5 days and when he finally replied he told me to fuck off and move on no explanation nothing
I then went back up to his house on the 29th of January 2022 to get the rest of my things I still had tvs and my daughters bike and scooters etc I then came home and 2 days later he unblocked me and we started talking again for 6 month right up until the end of July 2022 the reason I entertained him was because I was still in love with him and I wasn’t over him
in the 6 month that we spoke he would phone and text me constant and send me old videos of me and him and him and my daughter so I then beileve that he regretted breaking up with me and in my delusional head thought we would get back together at the middle of July 2022 he asked me over to his house so I went over and spent 4 days with him and then came home again everything was fine for a week after that then the following week he randomly ignored me for 3 days then when he replied he told me to move on by this point I had had enough and gave him his character I was so hurt and heartbroken and couldn’t beileve he was doing this to me again he didn’t say anything no explanation nothing all he had to say was “goodbye” and then blocked me
then in September and October last year we briefly spoke again but October was the last time I heard from him , then in November his friend messaged me and told me that 3 weeks before he split up with me he cheated on me with his ex and slept with her in the back of his work van he told me he was working late that night me and his mum ended up phoning the police because we thought something bad had happend to him because he didn’t get back untill really late but yeah that’s what he was really doing was cheating on me and the friend said the reason she knew this is because 3 weeks after me and him split up he went up to visit her and her husband and was bragging about cheating on me and laughing about how worried I was that night
I also found out that last year for the whole 6 month that he came back into my life he was also seeing another woman and then in November 2022 I found out he had a new girlfriend now because I was so heartbroken and hurt and angry and felt betrayed I let my emotions get the better of me and I started messaging him and messaged his new girlfriend I didn’t say anything nasty to her or make any threats but I will admit for the past few months iv been contacting him on different fb account expressing my anger and hurt towards him but I just wanted him to understand how much he hurt me and broke my heart anyway he contacted the police and said I was harassing him they have told me not to contact him again but said they are investigating it
I know what iv done is wrong and I should of had more self control and not behaved in that way or contacted him but I’m now really worried that im going to get charged for harassment im scared and don’t know what to do will the police even slightly put my side of things into consideration that I acted out of heartbreak
iv got a little girl and I just feel so guilty for putting myself in this situation over a man that isn’t worth it and I could potentially ruin my life over this
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EmmaL96 · 25/03/2023 20:57
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