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Had door kicked twice - can police do anything?

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Bepis · 27/12/2022 05:05

My 16 year old daughter had a verbal argument with her friends (mostly 16 year old boys) and no longer spoke to them. One of them made a threat to her saying that her and her friend are going to be 'jumped'.

At this point, I didn't get involved as I stay out of her friendships and arguments unless there is some danger involved.

After she fell out with these boys, a group of about 3 came to my house and banged on the front door and ran off. This frightened my other daughter who is disabled. I made a report online to the police and got a call from them the next day. They said they can't do anything about them kicking the door but could about the threat as it's 'malicious communications'. The officer I spoke to told me to ring 999 if they came to the house again and started doing the same.

Anyway, I spoke to one of the boys involved as I knew him and had previously helped him (mental health problems) and he said they would now leave it. I gave him the benefit of the doubt.

Everything was quiet for a week and then last night, around 8:20pm, there was a horrendous loud bang on the door. I could have sworn I heard glass break at the time but I couldn't find any. The whole house shook and my disabled daughter was once again traumatised. DH ran outside but they had already run off. They left a whole shoe print on the door. No damage was done to the outside of the door but they did damage something on the inside that was connected to the door.

I phoned 999 as previously advised and he took details. Still waiting to hear from them but will they actually do anything? I know that it is breaking the law but it's whether the police are likely to take further action? If not it's going to continue and escalate and I may not be able to hold my DH back next time.

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Bepis · 02/03/2023 01:02

Pieandchips1234456 · 02/03/2023 00:57

I doubt it would go to court, a couple young boys kicking a door. The court wouldn't waste their time.

It was more regards the harm caused to my daughter by their actions. I don't think any human being should be a waste of time for the courts.

Anyway, I'm still weighing up pros and cons at min.

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user40643 · 02/03/2023 13:01

They can't attribute her entire mental health problems to one particular event, kicking of a door.
I don't understand how that would be classed as ABH.
Also what kind of outcome are you expecting?

Bepis · 02/03/2023 13:14

user40643 · 02/03/2023 13:01

They can't attribute her entire mental health problems to one particular event, kicking of a door.
I don't understand how that would be classed as ABH.
Also what kind of outcome are you expecting?

Because all evidence shows that she only became this way due to the trauma of what they did. It is ABH because it caused harm to a person and case law shows that it can apply to psychiatric harm also, as long as it is severe and significant enough.

But as said yesterday, there's probably no point because victims don't get justice and the criminals get protected.

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Bepis · 02/03/2023 13:15

And it was 3 times over a 2 week period.

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user40643 · 02/03/2023 14:19

But they kicked a door.

It's not really a cause, more a factor.

Bepis · 02/03/2023 15:05

user40643 · 02/03/2023 14:19

But they kicked a door.

It's not really a cause, more a factor.

I would argue that is was a trigger that caused her decline in mental health. And kicking a door to the point the house shook can be extremely traumatic for someone with a learning disability and possibly autism. They cannot process things like we can. It's really irrelevant whether the action was a door kick or a bat round the head, caused the same damage and there was an assault involved.

I find it extremely difficult when people on her minimise what has happened to my daughter and the trauma we all went through and are still going through. I appreciate it's hard to understand it not been in our situation but it's deeply upsetting to hear "it's only a kick to the door".

I don't think I will be commenting on the thread anymore, it's too upsetting.

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