*The names in this story are changed to protect the identity of those involved.
My family's story is long and started when I was a little girl due to my mother's jealousy.
I will never forget being in counseling with my husband and having him told that I was an unloved little girl, and that was at the center of our marital issues.
My husband could not raise his voice at me, and I could not handle having anything mean spoken to me, for it took me back to my childhood, and there was so much more.
No one told me to walk away from my mother, only to keep her at arm’s length.
My mom asked me numerous times for approximately ten years if my husband was molesting our oldest daughter, Tessa. I would ask Tessa and should get upset and never want to see my mother. She would think such a thing about her dad.
At one point, I called the sexual abuse hotline to discuss my mother's concerns, sending out Children and Youth Services to our home.
My husband traveled for a living and was not home when the Children and youth came to conduct their investigation.
It was my oldest daughter and me that were home at the time.
My daughter told them nothing had happened.
I told them nothing was happening, but I called due to my mother's concerns.
My husband got home and talked to them.
We never received any letters of investigation.
Right before COVID, our daughter wanted to date a boy that we said no to her dating, for she was an honor roll student that made the National Honor Society.
As far as we know, she had no previous history with boyfriends.
This boy was friends with our middle son Jason, who had an account of using girls for sex and then breaking up with them.
We were doing our job as parents.
Our daughter threatened to commit suicide.
I was concerned, but my husband talked to her and did not take the threat seriously.
I called her school, sending the letter to the school.
They spoke to her and said that it was nothing to worry about.
I still followed up with the threat of getting her in with a psychiatrist for medication as soon as possible.
I also took her to the pediatrician for medication until we could get her in for medication with the psychiatrist.
The psychiatrist told me my husband was her problem.
I asked her again if my husband was molesting her. She told me no, that it was that she wanted her room and that dad refused to give up his office for her to have a bedroom of her own.
My husband worked from home when he was at home.
During COVID, our youngest daughter Addy started to nag to go to my mother's.
We never allowed our children to stay at my mother's.
We trusted Tessa to watch her sister and for things to go okay.
There was much hate for Addy because of Addy’s unique needs.
None of our children believed that Addy was a special needs child. They always thought Addy got whatever she wanted by taking a fit.
I fought for twelve years to get Addy diagnosed with autism.
We had family based in our home two times, functional family therapy in our house once, took her to see a behavioral therapist and had a family therapist who worked with our whole family.
Then I cyber-schooled Addy since she was in first grade with all her special needs; she had a private tutor that worked with her weekly, an occupational therapist, and a speech therapist.
She was hated for her unique needs, and it was hard for us as parents to let go because we worried about her and how she would be treated.
While our girls were at my mother's, my mom asked if our girls could stay longer but did not ask me; she asked my husband.
She started screaming at him that he always f-ing hated them when he told her no and that our daughter Tessa had an AP test, and he felt it was best for her to take the test from home.
She never would typically call him ever to ask him.
This was unusual, but I did not think about this at the time.
My mother then went over all her issues with my husband and our two daughters and why she felt he hated her.
She took our oldest on this drive to discuss this.
I have the photos.
My daughter texted me, telling me that I needed to divorce him or that she was not coming home.
Then a text that she would take care of him. Before they went over there, my mother said my husband was molesting Tessa, and she would never tell because that is typical for kids who love their parents.
I had heard it many times in one ear and out the other.
I got a call from my youngest, Addy, at midnight on May 16, 2020, that my oldest, Tessa, needed to tell me something.
Tessa was hysterical that my husband had touched her and molested her.
I could barely make out what she was saying.
I told her to get my mother, and I called the state police to report the alleged abuse and have my husband arrested.
My mother called to tell me how proud she was of me for knowing what to do.
My daughter Tessa reverted to a baby calling me mommy, which was strange.
I had to go to the police station to file the report.
I am being told by my sons that talked to Tessa that she told them she did not even know if this occurred until they told her they did not believe her. Then it went to two years of abuse four times a day for two times a day.
The next day every time the trooper called to ask her if the abuse occurred a certain way or somewhere, she had a story.
Our daughter took second place in the debate.
She is an excellent story writer.
I was not putting all this together.
My world was turned upside down.
I did what I was told to do.
I filed a PFA to get the house.
I am being lied about by Children and youth. They said that I had to live with my mom.
I hate my mom!
Why would I do that?
My mom accused my brother, that lived with me, of molesting my sister for years the night that all this came out.
He would be the person other than my children who could say that nothing ever occurred in my home, and my mother is now accusing him of sexual abuse.
She should have just accused one of my children of sexual abuse that night.
I was furious.
I still am thinking about it.
I filed for divorce on my wedding anniversary on Monday after the allegations were made.
This was very hard for me because my husband's ex-wife was calculating filing for divorce on her birthday, child support on their wedding anniversary, and writing letters for more money on his birthday. Everything was a specific date with significance.
This was a hard thing for me to do, but I knew I had to file for divorce with the allegations.
My younger children had CAC interviews the week they came home.
I scheduled STD testing for my daughter Tessa and myself as soon as possible.
I did not understand anything regarding STD testing.
I was wrongly diagnosed with an eyesight test for having genital herpes in 2017.
My daughter Tessa had a blood test that was a high positive for genital herpes.
I have had two negative blood tests for genital herpes, and so has my husband.
It took her schoolteacher to explain to me that, therefore, he never could have molested her because she was sexually active.
I had an exposure test also, and it was negative. I did not understand any of this.
Before I understood all this, my mother told me to meet with my husband and that if he confessed, they would give him a lesser sentence.
I did that. Why would I not?
I am a mom thinking about my kids and what they are going through.
This was Tessa's twelfth-grade year she was going to have this criminal case hanging over her head.
I just wanted this to end.
I never asked him if he was guilty or not.
I just assumed he was.
Why would my daughter lie about this?
No child lies about being abused.
I did not listen to anything he said when he told me he was innocent.
All I could think of was my poor children's trauma.
As a mom, I had a one-track mind to protect my children.
I want no media attention for my kids.
I want to keep this as quiet as possible.
I want this to go away.
Now they are saying that he confessed to me.
I met with him to get him to confess.
They arrested him for a PFA that was not on him and me.
The PFA was on our daughters only.
I stayed off the PFA because my husband and I had a good relationship, and we would have divorce stuff to talk about.
The trooper did not care. She arrested him anyway.
We have all the proof.
I have recently sent that all to the FBI, for that is what I was told to do if we cannot get help elsewhere in our state that the FBI investigates unethical troopers.
My husband was then arrested for the charges of abuse against our daughter Tessa.
The ADA multiplied what she said 4x a day, 2x a week for two years to come up with the charges.
Our daughter Tessa told every child about my husband to make them say things about him.
She told me something about him, such as he had a whore in every state he traveled to, so I would also be angry with him.
This is how they charged him. No one has ever seen that many charges in our county.
A no-contact order was put in place with his bail for him and me.
The things that my daughter was saying when I started to investigate.
I was upset with the false arrest.
I was upset over some of the behaviors of my daughters. I will discuss that in part two.