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Why is my partners ex stalking him again?

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BlueBunny23 · 13/09/2022 13:28

Iv been with my partner 6-7 years. When we got together he had a non molestation order against his ex wife who had been doing domestic violence towards him she had been arrested many times for attacking him and injuring him. The order was in place for 4 years it had been in place 18 months when I met my partner. He has 1 child with her who is 18 so they don’t speak as he just talks direct to his child who is not living with the mother anyways she’s off and uni. He still has to pay maintenance as she’s in education but he’s always paid anyways and always will. He recently got a new job and it’s 15 miles from his ex wife’s home. She lives with her 6 young children to 4 different men that she’s had over the 8 year breakup from her husband. She’s not with any of the men. One of her family members seen Her ex at his work place and must have told her where he’s working now my partner keeps seeing her either sat outside or walking past with her double pram and row of kids behind. He’s told his work place about her and how he had the order against her. 4 times since last week he’s seen her sat outside I guess in the hope of her catching him coming out. He knows what ever she had to say wouldn’t be nice and would be a mouthful of abuse. If she needed to contact him they use a website to contact each other which was arranged in court but it’s only to be used to speak of his child. Message’s can be not deleted or edited. So if she was to send a nasty message on there she couldn’t remove it after and I guess if she was reported would get into trouble.
why would she be stalking him again? Can a woman stalk someone because she hates them? I’m thinking she still has feelings…. My parents says no she just wants to cause trouble. So I don’t know what to think?
he plans on going to the police if he sees her again outside of his work place.

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Isaidnoalready · 13/09/2022 13:33

If he works in a public place she can walk past all she likes its contact with him that's the issue and she isnt doing it

I'm assuming he is going via child maintenance for his payments? Strange that my ex didn't have to continue child maintenance when my dd hit university you might want to check he still has to pay the mother he might be able to switch payments directly to the child

Pompom2367 · 13/09/2022 13:33

Can you contact the police to log it at least op

BlueBunny23 · 13/09/2022 13:37

ge Delivers parcels it’s a depo nobody but the drivers and workers can go in but she’s sat outside most days suddenly, it’s 15 miles from her house. Can’t see a reason she would want to be sat there or keep going there. She’s never tried to go in or speak to the man on the gate and say heyyy my parcel didn’t come so I guess it’s not because of a lost parcel. His last letter was 1 year ago from the csa with the payment dates all worked out I do suppose it would be better going to the child who isn’t at home now.

yes he’s definitely going to call the police and log it and see what they say

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