Sexual assault allegation/ rape

[Clouis]

Hi, not sure if this is under the right topic!

Anyway, my partner has been accused of sexually abusing someone & now someone else has come forward & said my partner has raped them & done other oral things many years ago. He's currently under investigation with police & almost a week later. I'm awaiting for social services to come. We've also got a little boy. My main priority in this, is my child & I need to be strong & stay strong for my child My partner is saying he's innocent in this & hasn't done anything wrong & I'd like to deep down believe he hasn't done anything, but also scared of what the outcome would be!
I'm also about to start a job in a school, would this also affect my career? Even if this case has nothing to do with me? I'm a good clean person & just want the best for my child.

Hi Clouis, i'm so sorry about your situation. You are not responsible for your DP's behaviour.

Statistically the chance that a woman would lie about this are very very low so to have two women make a claim, I think its very likely your partner is guilty.

I think you need to leave him, because even if you believe him now, the doubt will creep in over the years.

I reported my abuser to the police this year after sexual abuse a long time ago and he is now living a normal life with his partner. I have no idea how him being arrested for rape is effecting his current relationship. They look happy. I wish that woman would see the warning sign and I could show her the truth and get herself out of her relationship. I know my ex (rapist) is very convincing. I'm pretty sure she believes him, but I know what really happened. She needs to get out.

I have no idea how this will effect your career. Do a Claire's law check and the police may be able to give you more information and see if your partner is hiding anything else.

My Friend had a very similar situation she had a new ish boyfriend and about 6 months into the relationship she got a call from social services saying this man has raped his ex and because of that she needed to end the relationship that day and kick him out or they were coming to remove her children from the home . I was there when she got the call it was a huge shock to us. He said he was innocent it never made it to court but social services are hot on rape cases even ones that didn’t get to court because they still believe that man can be dangerous and they don’t want kids around stuff like that. So there is a big chance you will need to leave him and he will have to move out.

Really? My experience is that family courts/social services couldn't care less about rape allegations if they don't get to court.

Obviously the op here needs to leave her partner immediately