Domestic sexual abuse

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I was with my ex partner for a number of years. He had recently began to sexually abuse me.
It was reported and he was arrested for rape.
Im left feeling completely numb and upset at the same time.
Also feelings of guilt that I didn’t stop it sooner.
has anyone else gone through this?
How have you managed to cope?
I am looking into getting support and help, but there’s no one right here in front of me that can help me through it.
Thanks

I’m so sorry to hear this. Well done for reporting and having him arrested. Please don’t feel any guilt, abusers manipulate you so that you don’t always do what’s best for yourself.

Have the police not put you in touch with Victim Support? Hopefully some more knowledge posters will be along with some advice but from me, take it easy on yourself, you’ve done a fantastic thing after the ordeal he put you through. Treat yourself with all the love and care you’d give to someone else in your position

Thank you for replying back. The police have put in a referral in for me for some support. But I have no idea what that entails or how long that will take. I’m finding it difficult to process at the moment, but I guess it will take a bit of time to comes to terms with it all.

Yes it will be a long road to heal from this trauma. I hope Victim Support will be in touch soon - for me it was only a few days after the incident, but I guess things are stretched a bit more thinly these days so who knows. Remember the Samaritans are always there if you’re feeling low and need a chat. And this place has been a godsend to me over the years.

To get a bit more interaction on your post I would report it to MNHQ and ask them to move it to Relationships rather than Crime, as there will be more people reading that board, who can give you good advice.