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Don't know what to do

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Dahlialala · 13/05/2022 15:06

Hello,
Just looking for a bit of help/ advice please
Last year I was furloughed because of the pandemic so therefore I wasn't at work. I am an active person so i used to get up early, go for a walk or go out food shopping to the supermarket
There wasnt much else to do..I couldn't visit anyone or go out of town because of the lockdown
I can't drive and i didn't like using the bus because of covid, was wary because lots of drivers were off with the virus
I walk everywhere. As I live in a small town, I tend to see the same people almost everyday
I used to see an older guy on his bike everyday and he would often wave amd say hi so I used to wave and say hi back.
I am in my 30s he's in his late 60s
Now and then the man on his bike would stop for a quick chat, just talk about weather etc.. I reckoned he was a bit lonely as he was always alone
Then one day he stopped his bike amd walked with me. He seemed very angry and bitter and said to me at least you talk, some women are ignorant cs and don't speak 😲. Then he continued his rant.. stating that his ex wife was a c*, amd took all his money. He said some awful racist things.. awful things about BLM and said he, he said he "hates" the royal family and that it was good prince philip passed away. His comments made me shake and I felt really uneasy. I actually felt sick!
I made my excuses and left him to go another way, I said I'm going here to see my friend (I wasn't but I did it to get away from him). He sounded so angry, bitter and nasty.
The next time I saw him, he stopped his bike and asked me out for a drink and I said no, I'm not interested. He asked me if I was doing anything later I said I don't know yet.. I have things to do.
He didn't look happy.
The next time I saw him he swerved his bike towards me and shouted things I couldn't hear, then shouted again and he laughed a really loud exaggerated laugh
I was shaken up
I started walking out with my mum or my friend because I got worried I bump into him.
Now furloughed ended a while ago I am back at work so I don't see him as much but see him now amd then at weekends or when off work. But now when I do see him, he stares and stares until he passes me, giving me an intimidating stare.
I can see him coming along the road sometimes and I know its him as he has a bright yellow bike and wears the same clothes every day and a black cap pulled down over his face. He always seems to have a brilliant red face. So I can see him coming and know its him so I know now and I look down, pretend I'm on my phone or I look away and he now says something and laughs an exaggerated crazy laugh.. almost manic laugh.
I have started altering times I need to go out at days am not at work so I don't see him but even though I try to avoid him, I always seem to encounter him.
I feel shaken up when he does this stuff but because I can't hear what he says my friend said I can't do anything about it. Apart from get the bus or taxi I can't really avoid him, he always seems to be about somewhere on my route.
Am just a bit worried he might follow me home one day and he will then know where I live

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Felix125 · 14/05/2022 04:23

Its harassment - he's pursuing a course of conduct to cause you harassment, alarm or distress.

Needs reporting to police. You don't have to take formal action against him, but they can intervene to stop what he is doing.

Do you know who he is, where he lives? Or can you try and get a photo of him using your phone? Does he hang around a certain area at a certain time?

Might be a mental health issue or he might be the type of person who gets transfixed on people - either way its worth reporting so the police can identify who he is and start putting conditions on him.

Dahlialala · 14/05/2022 04:39

Thank you.
I will phone 101 and log it. Then they will be aware of his behaviour.
I can't understand his problem. I feel really intimidated by him and i have a feeling he may be known to the police.
Thank you for your reply.

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