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Domestic abuse - court review

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Jacqjacq88 · 29/01/2022 18:12

Hi, I'm looking for some information.
My ex was recently found guilty of 3 counts of Domestic Abuse against me. He got a period of community service and I have a court ordered restraining order against him. As soon as the trial concluded, him and his partner bought a house a 5 minute walk from mine (him and his new partner have no work or family links to my town and no reason to live here).
He has not approached me or contacted me or anything like that but he is going to court for the review next month....should I inform the court that he has done this or will it make no difference? What actually happens during the review?

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HebeMumsnet · 30/01/2022 12:27

Hi OP,

We just thought we'd bump this for you in hopes someone will be along soon who might know more than us about this.

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Jacqjacq88 · 30/01/2022 16:08

@HebeMumsnet Thank you xx

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Felix125 · 31/01/2022 00:51

What are the conditions on the order?

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Jacqjacq88 · 31/01/2022 09:48

@Felix125 it's a 3 year court ordered non harrasment order but it only states that he can not approach or contact me. I know he's not breaking that order but it's ridiculous that he's allowed to buy a house minutes from me and go completely unchecked. The court didn't even let me know he'd moved there.

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purpleboy · 31/01/2022 10:09

Have you seen him out and about since he lived there? Is it affecting you?
What's the worst that could happen by bringing it up?
I can imagine you feel quite anxious in case you see him and that's no way for you to live. I sit. Know the legal aspects of this but if you don't mention it it will go unchecked if you do then maybe something can be done?

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Jacqjacq88 · 31/01/2022 14:38

@purpleboy it's badly affecting me. The town I live in is not massive but now there are areas im afraid to go to incase I bump into him...the supermarket, the park with my daughter....I can't even walk the dog alone anymore.
I doubt there is anything that can be done. I don't even know what this court review is about. I've looked it up online but I can't find anything about court reviews.

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TrickyToPickUsername4644 · 31/01/2022 14:55

So he's going to court about the original court order that's bizzarre

OP did you know you can apply to extend a court order?

If he owns the house I suspect the court cant do much, as they can't make him sell and move

purpleboy · 31/01/2022 15:09

Then you should definitely try and raise it. It's sound horrendous and very stressful. Bastard

maryberryslayers · 31/01/2022 15:37

Is your daughter his child? Does he see her?

Theunamedcat · 31/01/2022 15:43

Do you rent or own?

Do you have cameras by your house? Ring doorbell thst sort of thing?

My concern would be he would wait out the three years establish himself in the community then when the order lapses he begins overt harassment

All he is doing now is intimidation and that's subjective

I would move within the three years

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Jacqjacq88 · 31/01/2022 17:37

@Theunamedcat I own the house and we are definitely moving before the 3 years is up. Unfortunately due to work and childcare we can't move straight away. That's exactly what I'm thinking. Its as if he's just lying in wait until the order is up. There's just no other reason for him to move here.
@maryberryslayers No she's not his daughter (thankfully)
@TrickyToPickUsername4644 the court thing seems to a 6 month review. To make sure he's sticking to the order and attending his community service I think.

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Felix125 · 31/01/2022 20:53

He may be having a review to change the conditions - or at least suggest it to the court.

His defence will be that he has a human right to a private life and so can live in the same town - so long as he doesn't breach those conditions.

I agree that the fact you may bump into him or see him will be causing a huge amount of anxiety - but the courts don't tend to give strict conditions to remove the perpetrator from you community/town area.

It may be an upheaval & i know the victim should't be the one to move - but it might bring you the solution to remove him from your life once and for all.

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Jacqjacq88 · 01/02/2022 09:39

@Felix125 I have a feeling that he will find out where I've moved to and follow me...but I will be moving asap. Its so strange, he bought the house with his current partner (who again has no links to my town) if she knows what happened then it's so weird that she would agree to move there with him. The whole thing is very strange and worrying.

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Felix125 · 01/02/2022 15:52

I suppose it depends what his new partner is like and what stories he's been telling her about you.

Does he (or she) have any other links to your town - work, his family, friends etc etc

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Jacqjacq88 · 01/02/2022 18:59

@Felix125 well he went into court and told them a load of nonsense so hes probably been saying the same to her.
No he has absolutely no links at all to my town. He's from the other side of the country and works miles away from here. From what I know of her she has no links or connections to where I live.

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Theunamedcat · 01/02/2022 21:03

[quote Jacqjacq88]@Felix125 I have a feeling that he will find out where I've moved to and follow me...but I will be moving asap. Its so strange, he bought the house with his current partner (who again has no links to my town) if she knows what happened then it's so weird that she would agree to move there with him. The whole thing is very strange and worrying.[/quote]
New partners can either cool or escalate a situation in my experience my ex tends to.go for people who escalate situations I've honestly come close to being knifed by one of them and I've done absolutely nothing wrong she just believed everything he told her and the things he told her were awful

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Jacqjacq88 · 02/02/2022 17:49

@Theunamedcat I don't know if this woman even knows anything about what he did. If she does know (even if he's told her a nonsense story about what happened) it's so weird that she would agree to move here. If it was me id want my partner to be as far away from it all as possible x

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Ostagazuzulum · 19/02/2022 06:29

Ideally His new partner needs a Claire's law disclosure.

Wauden · 26/07/2022 22:07

@Jacqjacq88. I suggest that you contact the police with your concerns, quoting the reference number and at least it's on the record
Good luck with your new home

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