Help!! Creepy Man

[Blessed2496]

I was having a cigarette by the front door and a man approached me asking for a cigarette. I live right on a busy main road (door opens onto the pavement) so this is quite normal and I didn't think anything of it and gave him one.

He didn't leave and instead asked if he could come in. I obviously said no and he told me I was being disrespectful. I thought he may be disabled so I just said clearly I don't know you so you can't come into my house.

He then asked if there was a man or anyone else in the house. I must have paused for a second before saying yes and he laughed and said that there wasn't. He asked again if he could come in and I just said no. I didn't want to be rude as by this point I was quite scared and thought he might be dangerous. He then said should I leave? I nodded and he turned away before looking back at the door number and reading it aloud.

This was about an hour ago and I'm really worried and can't get to sleep. I've double locked and bolted the front door but I can't help thinking he could come back. It's just me and my baby in the flat and I'm not sure what to do. There's no where else we can stay tonight and it's late so I can't call anyone to come and stay with us. Any advice??

You could ring 101 and just let them know so they can log the incident.

To be honest, the man prob isnt well and by the morning, wont remember you

That’s creepy and bloody scary

Can you give a call to police for advise?
He may be known

What a weirdo.

Let the police know, hope you manage to get some sleep.

I've been on hold to 101 for 20 minutes I don't think there will be much they can do unless he comes back but at least they'll have it logged if I ever get through!

Did you manage to get through yet?

@Blessed2496 That is a bit creepy to be honest. Definitely log it with the police although they won't be able to do much at this point but it's better to have it on record and logged, especially if he does come to your home again and asks to come in I would politely but firmly say no and go straight back inside and lock the doors and log it again with the police they will then be able to do something as that would technically count as harassment if you have made it clear that you do not wish to engage with him and he continues to keep up this creepy behaviour. He may even be well known to the police weirdo's like that normally are.

There was a guy who used to harass me where I worked whenever I went outside to smoke he would ask me for a cigarette which I never gave (I only take one cigarette with me due to passers by constantly asking me for one ) he would try to sit on the bench so close to me you couldn't get a knife in between and then stare at me. I then started staying outside my workplace where the cameras were and he would stand right in my personal space and stare. Then one day he approached me again stood next to me demanded a cigarette off me and when told no tried to grab the one I was smoking out of my hand and then proceeded to tell people I was his girlfriend and how we'd be "making babies later" . Normally I'd tell them to jog on but I had a really bad feeling about this guy I felt if I told him to jog on he'd turn on me. Anyways I reported him to the police and they came to my workplace spoke to me and showed me some photo's on their tablet and second page in there was his mugshot. Turns out he was well known to the police and had harassed other women in much the same way as he did me. The police said they'd have a word when they caught up with him and if it continued they'd look into charging him with harassment but thankfully I never saw him again. Always go with your gut instinct OP don't worry about politeness and fear of offending if your gut instinct is telling you something's not right then it's not right.

Hope you managed some sleep

Agree that we should not bother with politeness with that sort of man.

I highly commend that you read The Gift Of Fear.

What happened??