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I’m being blackmailed/threatened

12 replies

Firstmom264 · 05/04/2020 17:18

Some of you might remember some of my older posts.. but if not, here’s a quick recap... 3 years ago my fiancé committed suicide.. our son was 18 months at the time so he doesn’t remember much. My fiancé’s parents basically blamed me for his death because there was arguing, cheating, lying in our relationship (we were only 18). And ever since they’ve wrote awful, horrible things about me online, nasty threats and publicly shamed me multiple times. They haven’t seen my son (their grandson) in almost 3 years because of this. A year ago we went to court for a child arrangement order but they withdrew their own application and decided my son wasn’t important enough to see. (I argued that they would fill my sons head full of poison about me and tell him lies and the magistrates agreed with me). The police have never helped me. I’ve reported them over 8 times and nothing ever gets done. However, in the last week these parents have sent messages to my mom, brother, dad, sister saying that if we don’t delete our social media accounts they will post nudes of me, videos of me (all when I was 17/18) and different things. I’ve phoned the police and they’re not helping at all. I’m so disheartened by it all and don’t know what to do or who to turn to. I need some advice.. would be appreciated! Thank you!!

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SylvanianFrenemies · 05/04/2020 17:19

Try calling women's aid for advice. Or a solicitor, if you can afford it.

SylvanianFrenemies · 05/04/2020 17:20

Meanwhile, could you set up new social media accounts in fake names.

HollowTalk · 05/04/2020 17:21

Why are the police not helping you, OP? It's such an obvious crime that they are committing.

TrudysTerribleFringe · 05/04/2020 17:22

That is awful, so sorry you are going through all of this.

Can you afford a solititor to write to them and remind them that revenge porn is a serious crime and can be punishable with a prison sentence.

wowjustwowyes17262 · 05/04/2020 17:23

Report to the police Op, blackmail is a crime a vary serious one....

cookiemonster5 · 05/04/2020 17:25

Call the police. Tell them you are being blackmailed with the threat of photos/videos of you when you were a minor (under 18). These are 2 very serious crimes which carry prison sentences. Do not take no for an answer.

PerryMasonsFriend · 05/04/2020 17:30

However, in the last week these parents have sent messages to my mom, brother, dad, sister saying that if we don’t delete our social media accounts they will post nudes of me, videos of me (all when I was 17/18) and different things.

If the police won't do anything (quite apart from blackmail publishing sexual images is a crime under s33 of the Criminal Justice and Courts Act 2015 - revenge porn laws see here:
www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2015/2/section/33/enacted
)

you can get a civil injunction to stop this. You have to apply to the
Court in civil proceedings and ask the court to make an order stopping them from doing the acts you list in the order (this would include harassing you, threatening you, publishing images of you) and you probably also want a court order requiring them to delete/destroy or hand over to you ("deliver up") in legal terms the images they have.

The process of applying for a court order normally costs money but
you maybe able to get a waiver of the court fee if you are unable to pay and there are a number of lawyers/places that will provide free legal advice in deserving cases and yours sounds like a deserving case. Have a look at these for a start:

weareadvocate.org.uk/apply-for-help.html

www.lawworks.org.uk/legal-advice-individuals

www.citizensadvice.org.uk/

If you do have the ability to pay, then you want to look for a firm of solicitors or barristers who do direct acess work who specialise in privacy and harassment because they are very used to dealing with these kind of cases - including obtaining confidentiality orders to protect your identity in the proceedings - so that you don't make the position worse by advertising your name through the court process.

They tend to be the same firms/chambers who specialise in what's referred to as "media law".

If the facts are as you describe and you can show this, you should get an injunction easily without any problem at all.

Make sure you keep all evidence you have and make a record of anything - eg. telephone calls, times etc, keep screen shots of anything on social media as soon as you see it in case it gets deleted.

MarieG10 · 05/04/2020 17:32

Blackmail is a crime as is publishing the pictures.

If the police won't help you then ask for it in writing or email as to why.

Then submit a complaint.

You may find that contacting your local police safeguarding unit or equivalent may be more helpful

PerryMasonsFriend · 05/04/2020 17:33

I also agree with the previous comments of don't give up with the police but if they really won't help, a civil injunction is another solution for you.

Don't wait though because threats like this need to be dealt with urgently.

FallonSwift · 05/04/2020 17:50

Go back to the police. Tell them that you want to make a formal report and for them to pursue this - and that if they refuse to help you then you will lodge a formal complaint against the force. Tell them about the harassment and that you would like this used as evidence for a restraining order against these people.

Finally I would send them one message back, telling them that you have reported this to the police and that any and all further communication from them to you or any of your friends or family will also be passed to the police.

pumpkintree · 11/08/2020 22:26

If the images are of you under 18 they would ne committing a very serious offence. I would go to the police station and not leave until they understand hat you cannot deal with this. Also seek an Injunction to stop this. Good luck. You did not kill him, You are not responsible.

BlueThistles · 10/09/2020 22:16

Why are the police not helping you, OP? It's such an obvious crime that they are committing.

agreed

Im so sorry to read what you and your Child have lost and endured already OP.

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