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My friend is 49 year old and is talking to young boys advice

36 replies

Davidldn · 02/12/2019 10:53

Ok, I am writing this post because I am in a dilemma. My friend Asked to stay at my house while on holiday, he is here now, I am 30, he is 49, man. He brought up a conversation which I found very uncomfortable to hear. He told me that he found a boy (in my eyes he’s a boy) of 15 years of age on a dating app, he talks about liking 14/15 year old boys a lot, which I find repulsive, to me this is still a child!. He has a 15 year olds number on His phone m. I said why did you take his number! That is wrong. He argued with me for 2 hrs stating taking a 14/15 years old number is not wrong..and it’s the same as saying liking men is wrong, that’s not the same thing I said. He said that he is talking to him because he is waiting for him to turn 16. I said, the that fact that you have taken the boys number who is underage at this time and you are talking to him is wrong, because you intentions are obvious. This is a 49 year old guy, I don’t want to judge but these sounds so close to him being a lot of concerning tendencies. Maybe I am wrong he is staying in my house until Wednesday. I really feel uncomfortable that he is in my house to be honest.

OP posts:
user1471449295 · 02/12/2019 10:56

Utterly wrong. I’d report him.

MellowMelly · 02/12/2019 11:03

I’m not surprised you feel uncomfortable!!
I am also worried that he can’t see that this is wrong!
He is waiting for one of them to turn 16 and most likely he is grooming him in the mean time?
I think you should report him. These boys are underage and god knows what sort of messages he is sending them.

Hidingtonothing · 02/12/2019 11:05

Can you get rid before Wednesday OP? Family emergency or something? I would, and then I'd report him.

whatsinthebagwhatcoulditbe · 02/12/2019 11:05

Kick him out and go to the police! This is an absolute no-brainer, FFS.

JaniceBattersby · 02/12/2019 11:08

You must go to the police. What he is telling you is likely the tip of the iceberg. He is grooming young boys and he is doing it from your addres.

Please contact the police today and tell them this man is in your house. And please God tell me you don’t have kids.

Purplewithred · 02/12/2019 11:08

Completely wrong, I wouldn't want him in my house and I'd consider 101 to report to the police

NewNameIsNew · 02/12/2019 11:12

I'd call the police and report everything he's told you ASAP. If you are scared to get him out they may be able to assist.

Lweji · 02/12/2019 11:15

Kick him out and go to the police! This is an absolute no-brainer, FFS

Keepaddingpets · 02/12/2019 11:23

How do you know that he's only doing what he's told you?

Call 101 to report him and get him to leave.

If any friend of mine did this they would automatically be an ex friend.

Rosepetals30 · 02/12/2019 11:27

It is wrong

My sister is in court as witness as a guy did the same to her at 15. She wasn’t the only one. He’s done worse since

Report him to the police now

Icanflyhigh · 02/12/2019 11:32

I would report him, let the police come and take him away and deal with him, and have his stuff packed for him ready to go.

Davidldn · 02/12/2019 12:55

Renting a holiday home in Portugal at the moment, but he lives in the UK. I’ve asked him to leave, the underage boy is British. The man still doesn’t comprehend that what he is doing was wrong. I said to him on his way out I’m sure the parents would like to know what you are doing to there child. He said well they should be taking better care of them then. SMH..I let the police deal with it.

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Rosepetals30 · 02/12/2019 13:38

Wtf!!! What a monster

alislim · 02/12/2019 13:39

That is absolutely disgusting. Filth!!
You need to report him. He knows it is wrong otherwise he wouldn't 'be waiting'. Angry
He is a criminal- a paedophile. Go to the police.

CherryBathBomb · 02/12/2019 22:27

That's awful.
The guys a monster!

JuneSpoon · 02/12/2019 22:33

Have you reported him?

Aquamarine1029 · 02/12/2019 22:39

How can you possibly be conflicted as to what to do? you need to call the police immediately.

I don’t want to judge

Seriously?!

Pieinthesky11 · 03/12/2019 14:14

Report to police and kick him out and have nothing to do with him

May84 · 03/12/2019 14:48

Wft? He's a paedophile grooming young boys.
You should be judging that!!

Onthebrink87 · 03/12/2019 14:52

It's ok to be aroused by a 14 year old boy, I'll wait until he's 16/17/18 before I have any sexual encounters.. loosely translates to me 'I'm a paedophile, but I don't want to go to jail so ill use those few years to groom my boy toys'

Report him and erase him entirely from your life. What an absolute grotesque creature he is!

whatsinthebagwhatcoulditbe · 03/12/2019 19:03

@Davidldn just to be clear, it is your responsibility to report this man to the police. Only then can you shake your head and "let them deal with it". They won't know he is a threat unless you tell them. He is quite clearly grooming an underage boy. Are you going to call the police yourself?

Singlenotsingle · 03/12/2019 19:30

He's a paedo. You do want/need to judge. Report him FFS.

Busybeebeebee · 03/12/2019 19:39

His parting statement to you is horrific in terms of he’s pretty much admitting guilt. It’s sickening, have you reported to police?

Jenpop234 · 03/12/2019 19:51

He's a paedophile. Call the police or you may face charges yourself for failing to report known child abuse.

Daisydoola · 03/12/2019 20:00

He's a paedo.

Judge away but report him first.

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