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Partner victim of random violent assault, how can i help?

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BigWhiteRabbit · 28/08/2019 23:13

hello, looking for wisdom and advice please. My DP was assaulted by 3 young men at 6.30am bank holiday Monday. He had just started his jog to work, it was 20 seconds from our house. He's got cuts, bruises, lumps on head, v sore ribs but okish, they chased him for 50metres shouting stab him stab him. pretty nasty.

understandably he's upset, how can i support him? everything I say is wrong at the moment, and he scoffs when I mention talking it through with a professional. He want us to sell our house and move to a different part of town, although we could do that, my feeling is his feelings will come with him so might not resolve anything and moving takes time plus we have a toddler. He feels the attack could be racially motivated, he's now suspicious and saying negative things about people of or similar to the ethnicity of the attackers. he's on edge and finds the company of our toddler too much but won't take any time off work (when toddler is at nursery). he's scared about meeting the attackers of them seeing him with me.

any advice please? anyone been through anything similar and tell me what you felt and what helped you recover?

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efeslight · 21/09/2019 09:44

I am sorry, i don't reallyhave any advice but this sounds absolutely devastating. Is he feeling any better at all? I can understand wanting to move house to be honest.

Onceuponatimethen · 21/09/2019 09:48

I wonder if you calling a relevant charity like victim support might help you support him

My dp experienced something much milder in a previous flat we lived in when jogging to work -teens slapped dp in the face and potentially videoed it as well presumably for laughs and dp never jogged or walked to work from our house again Sad

MsTSwift · 21/09/2019 09:50

So sorry to hear that how upsetting. My ex was severely beaten up his attackers got prison sentences he needed skull surgery. Had a big effect on him. I would push for counselling

Atalune · 21/09/2019 09:53

Counselling.

He is obviously and understandably traumatised. And he shouldn’t be ashamed about that. Does he have male friends he can talk to about it?

Would he join a local running club?

How absolutely horrific for him.

Onceuponatimethen · 21/09/2019 09:56

Had he reported to police?

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