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Feeling anxious about being victim of crime

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Reiloraptor · 26/12/2018 00:25

Hi, A couple of days ago at a Christmas party at my mum’s house. A woman punched me and my mother in the face. Basically she had tagged along with her sister, she wasn’t invited but my mum didn’t want to kick up a fuss and continued the party anyway. Through the night she kept arguing with her sister aggressively to the point she was threatening her (not sure how seriously it could be taken cause of them being siblings but.) anyway my kids were sleeping next door in my house and it wasn’t a great time to be shouting so my mum drew the line after several attempts to suggest her leaving she actually told her to go, that’s enough. As she was walking this woman through the house I suddenly hear commotion I rush in and my 52 year old mothers face was bleeding (from a punch to the mouth). I said to the woman “get the f**k out now”. I passed her and held the door open for her to get through.. she suddenly got in my face intimidating me and I remained stern but calm both my hands were by my side (non threatening) and as she backed away she punched me in the mouth too causing me to have a split lip. When she got off the property I said I’m calling the police. Called the police to report the assault they took statements shortly after. Now she hasn’t been arrested but will be soon for ABH on both me and my mum. Now I’m feeling really anxious about her being arrested and going to court, personally and I feel anxious and for her too. She was a stranger who hit me in my mother’s home (basically my family home) but I’m not sure how I would feel about being responsible for someone being charged with a crime. My main question is “is her crime serious enough for me to continue and take her to court” not legally but morally if you know what I mean. Thanks

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pigletpie2177 · 26/12/2018 12:10

There are a few ways this could go without it necessarily going to court. If she has never been in trouble before the police may talk to you about RJ, or restorative justice. This is essentially an apology from the woman. She may alternatively be eligible for a caution, assuming she admits what she did. If she has been in trouble before, or the police otherwise think it too serious for those options, they will look at prosecution. If you've been given details of the officer in the case (assuming that it has been allocated, which may be optimistic) you may be able to discuss RJ with them if you wanted to consider that.

DeepanKrispanEven · 26/12/2018 12:19

Yes, of course it is serious enough for her to be charged, if the police decide to do so. This was two serious assaults combined with threatening and aggressive behaviour. She can't be allowed to get away with it.

BMW6 · 31/12/2018 21:18

Yes of course it is morally right that she has consequences for her violence!

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