Not sure if this should be here or in Legal. Long time poster but have changed my user name as the subject is delicate.
So as not to drip feed. DD joined a school in yr 3 in 2014 after we moved. School very different to last as all parent's expected to take part in fundraising. Didn't mind joining in at all as I'm a SAHM.
DD made friends quickly, there was some bullying in yr4 but kept separate to what was going on with school committee.
Chair of Parent committee decides to step down at end of year, other parent's ask me to run for her place, so I said why not. Considered the Chair a mate, our DDs mates too, went to each other's homes constantly, no reason to suspect any weirdness.
Then, rumours started at school. I was a "danger to children". Also started at a kids group I volunteered at. Other parent's actively blanking me all the time. Found out source was Chairwoman. Asked her why, she refused to answer and blanked me. She also banned her DD from talking to mine.
Felt it was all ridiculous, made school aware (useless, no care or thought given). DD and her DD secretly mates so DD gave her's a Christmas card and adult erupted at her, screaming in her face, in the playground. DD at time was 9. School took no action as she was "stressed".
Eventually we left the school due to the bullying,and down to this adult and her behaviour, she would intimidate DD, intentionally or not.
Avoided all local events for months, so as not to be near this woman.
Last July, finally went to our local pub for a Fun Day. Knew she wouldn't be there as she hates the pub (not a fan of the landlord as she voices a lot of negatives towards Homosexuals due to her religious beliefs) and had a great day until the end when she turned up. Immediately began shouting at DD again. I kept telling DD to ignore it and move away, but adult followed so I shouted at her to leave my DD alone. She filmed it.
Police turned up 10 days later, saying I had threatened her, they had seen "lots of evidence" (we now know this wasn't true) and threaten to arrest me. The Officer was awful and I made a complaint after I found he had nothing at all bar a video of me shouting to her not to scream at my DD.
I voluntarily went into the Police station the day after, with evidence- lots of it. All the emails, all the minutes of meetings (she told Police I had turned up to lots of them, kicked off and been asked to leave, but the minutes of all these meetings was online on the committees blog page so easy to disprove), all sorts of stuff.
The officer I saw asked if I wanted to bring a case against her for harassment and I said I didn't care what she did to me, in fact, I would prefer it if she shouted at me, I just wanted something put in place that she couldn't threaten and scream at DD. Was told they would sort it.
Earlier this year, DD goes to Transition day- the woman and her DD turn up. Auditorium is empty, but she sat right in front of us. We ignored as DD's friend turned up and they decided to stay where they were. Nothing was said.
Then, woman turned up at the Pub, we were not there, and as a barmaid had actually heard her being homophobic about the landlord, he asked her and her friends and husband to leave. She got very angry, and shouted it was down to DH and I, and she had "Police files" on us and we are a "danger to children". How our door hasn't been kicked off by vigilantes I'll never know. She then emailed landlord and offered him to see these files, He declined.
Now DD is at school and a boy she doesn't know told her his old teacher (the woman) told him that DD pays people to be her friend. School is investigating.
All the way through, I have updated Police, I have submitted evidence and told them who to speak to for more evidence. They have done nothing.
They closed the case. They've not even told me until I chased today. They say they have no evidence and because she complained to them about me (the video where I was told no crime had been committed anyway) they wont do anything.
Any advice please? Surely this is threatening behaviour?