@Hazelwood63 and @Dontrocktheboat thanks!! It's good to have company during the waiting game!
Interesting thoughts on when to shelve a novel, thanks. @Hazelwood63 I'm in a similar place to you maybe in that the first two novels both had a degree of interest, but not enough. Or I suppose it was enough, at least to get me writing that third novel!
@Dontrocktheboat that sounds like a terrible experience, getting an agent but ultimately having to start over. In the end you'll hopefully be able to look back, once you're published, and think it all worked out but I can only imagine how tough it's been! Serious kudos to you for keeping going!
Do you find that you keep changing your bench mark as to what you feel is a "success" in a submission? Before, I would've said a full request was a success, but at this point, I feel getting an agent will be massive success - except as your experience shows, @Dontrocktheboat , you then have another massive hurdle to clear with publication. I guess they are all rungs on the (difficult to climb and very long!) ladder.
@StellaOlivetti the way you describe when you feel ready to shelve a novel is like how I feel. I sometimes feel a bit bad about it, as in, I was so invested in those characters and in telling their story, but then I've just sort of moved on! I find it hard to imagine re-visiting those stories, but then, it may be really nice to read back what I wrote then.