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Going rate for a wedding

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OchonAgusOchonOh · 26/02/2026 23:59

I'm posting in craicnet to get answers from Irish posters.

We’ve been invited to a wedding. The bit we’re invited to is the evening of day 2 (I’m a friend of one of the parents). Delighted to be invited but have no idea of the going rate for weddings these days. What would be a reasonable present amount? I'd prefer to give a voucher but not sure where for. Would a restaurant be OK and if so, how much?

I heard something on the radio recently and they were saying €200 for a full wedding but what is it for the 2nd day? I assume that's the equivalent of an afters invite in terms of what you'd give?

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Heidi2018 · 27/02/2026 00:30

€200 would be for a full invite to the whole day 1. If you are only invited to the evening of day 2, I wouldn't think a card is even expected but if you wanted to be nice, honestly €50 would be loads.

DramaAlpaca · 27/02/2026 00:37

It's a minefield, isn't it? I'd give €50 for the evening of the second day at the very most. That's €50 in total, not per person.

A restaurant voucher would be a lovely gift, but in that case I'd want to give one that'd cover dinner for two, which would almost certainly be over €50.

Honestly, for a day two evening invite I'd stick €50 in a card.

itsjustasecrethandshake · 27/02/2026 00:43

Granted not been to a wedding for years but they are two days long now??

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OchonAgusOchonOh · 27/02/2026 08:37

DramaAlpaca · 27/02/2026 00:37

It's a minefield, isn't it? I'd give €50 for the evening of the second day at the very most. That's €50 in total, not per person.

A restaurant voucher would be a lovely gift, but in that case I'd want to give one that'd cover dinner for two, which would almost certainly be over €50.

Honestly, for a day two evening invite I'd stick €50 in a card.

That is true about the voucher. Nothing worse than getting a voucher that costs you money. There are no decent shops near us that I could do a voucher to either. I guess cash it is, although I hate giving a relatively small amount of cash. I'm not sure why as if we were going to a full wedding I'd have no problem putting cash in a card.

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OchonAgusOchonOh · 27/02/2026 08:37

itsjustasecrethandshake · 27/02/2026 00:43

Granted not been to a wedding for years but they are two days long now??

Apparently 😁

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OchonAgusOchonOh · 27/02/2026 08:39

Heidi2018 · 27/02/2026 00:30

€200 would be for a full invite to the whole day 1. If you are only invited to the evening of day 2, I wouldn't think a card is even expected but if you wanted to be nice, honestly €50 would be loads.

Knowing the parents, there would be no issues whatsoever going empty handed but I'd like to give something. €50 was what I was thinking but would prefer not to do cash.

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Anonanonanonagain · 27/02/2026 09:55

Yeah nothing is expected for the evening of day 2 but a card with 50 in it would go down well I am sure.

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OchonAgusOchonOh · 27/02/2026 12:45

Anonanonanonagain · 27/02/2026 09:55

Yeah nothing is expected for the evening of day 2 but a card with 50 in it would go down well I am sure.

Back when I was going to weddings, it was a mix for the afters. Some gave a small present and some gave nothing so I'm assuming it's similar now.

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