14yr old boys

[Freddobar]

What do your boys do in school holidays/weekends?
My DS does 2 sport clubs which means he is out of the house 4 nights and match on Saturday. Which is good it keeps him busy but school holidays during the day he does nothing.
He has asked his friends to meet up and they all say no, too tired, just started gaming, studying or whatever random reason.
Do lads just not hang out with their friends anymore??? I see lots of girls walking around, in coffee shops, shopping centers or the park.
Suggestions of bowling, cinema or McDonald's are just met with eye rolls and "no I'm not asking them that my friends will laugh at me thinking I'm asking them out"

My teen DS wouldn't meet with his friends just to hang out together - there has to be a purpose to it. This half term he has met one friend for a bike ride (they cycled to McDonald's), another to play tennis and tomorrow he's going to play padel (which is easy to pick up if you've never played before). Another boy came over to ours on Sat and they watched the rugby together. Also, he "meets" his friends online (ie they game together and chat over the headphones while playing). I think my DS is unusually sociable though!

He won't ask them to go to McDonald's because 2 years ago he tried and nobody would do it.
He has tried to organise to meet up for football in the astro, they all agreed, we booked and paid for it and 2 out of 10 turned up.
Just seems mad that lads won't go out. Is their whole social life just through screens??
They spotted gaming online together before they left primary when.they stopped playing fortnite.
Ask kids around to house and nobody wants to do it.
He has friends cos his phone is constantly beeping, they just don't want to do anything. I think in the last year they have meet up 5 times in total for a kick about

I don't know if this is an option for you but I know boys that age who play golf - it's great, they get out on the school holidays, it has a purpose to it, it's sociable and takes up a lot of the day! Or maybe pitch and putt, might be an easier/cheaper option?

DS 14 had a friend round for a sleepover last night and is hanging out with another later today. But when DS17 was his age he would spend the days in his room. I imagine Ds14 will be doing the same for the rest of the holidays

It's not that my son doesn't want to go out or do anything he just can't get his friends to do anything with him.
At one stage he was always out with them kids in and out of the house then they went into secondary school and all hibernated.

My 14 year old is out morning to night with his friends - thats another issue. He seems happy but at that age you cant be 100% sure what they are up to when they are out of sight. I just hope he has some sense. He is happy socially but never studies and doing badly at school. He is well behaved at school but has issues focusing and no interest in academic work.

My 16 year old son has autism and has no friends but is very happy in his own company. He takes school seriously but lacks social skills.

Always something to worry about!