Communion Money

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Two nephews have communions soon and one has confirmation. None are godchildren.
What sort of cash is currently being given? Which I know is a ridiculous question but...etiquette!

My daughter‘s was around covid time so numbers were small and she got £90. England btw. My mum was shocked it was so little but, like I said, covid.
edited as just spotted this was the irish board!

Covid has a lot to answer for!

In Ireland it’s probably something ridiculous like €200. In England, a tenner in a card.

Id probably put 50 for a niece or nephew that's not a godchild and then 20 for friends kids .

Think we gave €30 in a card to nephews. Total amounts were obscene, around 500-600. We also went to the parties and enjoyed the good and drink so maybe less if your not going

I think 50 is more than enough. But dh thinks that's not enough.
I suggested a nice Bible...just to see what the reaction would be!

Times have changed.

Not in Ireland but Irish family members gave gifts.

I had many rosaries, a missal and a particularly graphic book of female saints and in what horrible way they died.

I'd have taken 50p instead if I had a choice.

I heard a radio series years ago on female saints and their horrible deaths!

I think €50 is loads.

@pontipinemum I would be thrilled if assorted relations handed me envelopes with 50 euros! One hundred...we are losing the run of ourselves again.

In England we tend to give appropriate religious gifts rather than money, in my experience.

I have quite a large extended family (in Ireland). Communions were a while ago now, but as a family we discussed it together and decided we'd all give gifts, not money and it worked really well.

For confirmation we did give money.

I have no idea how much cash is the going rate now, but I'd be inclined to give €50 if not a godchild.

It's a minefield, isn't it?

Its more of a minefield as my family isn't Catholic and my husband isn't religious. I have a hymn book and a prayer book my auntie gave me long ago.
Our wider families are in the midst of weddings and communions. Checking out the going rate is a minefield.

I do always think only give what you can afford. So even if everyone else is giving more I think €50 is the absolute max I would give to a communion child.

For a godchild I do give a gift. But we have a huge family. There are only so many bracelets/ necklaces a child will want

€30 to €50 each is what I’d give.
For a godchild I’d get a memento too from the jewellers.

Yeah this is what I give

I am Irish and in Ireland and 50 is plenty. Its ridiculous the amounts some assume their kids 'will get' and I suspect the only reason half of them still put their kids through it is for the money. I christened mine but they have taken no further sacraments fyi.

I think 50 is probably the minimum for nephew or niece these days. 20 for family friends. For a godchild I would do jewellery or similar

We did fifty and my adult kids sent 20 each since they were all working and not involved in the event.
I think one set of grandparents has lots of money...they could afford plenty. But really I hope they didn't give a huge sum. It shouldn't be about money. A 12 year old doesn't need lots of money.
Yet here I am checking how much to give!

I am in lreland with a big gang of nieces & nephews. They all got 50 in a card. Had nice family days at their homes with lots to eat and drink. Always seemed grateful and l had no idea what my siblings gave. I could afford more but still have 18th / 21st/ graduations/ weddings to celebrate so l am pacing myself.

We are in the midst of peak wedding in our families too. Then christenings are creeping in.
It is lovely to see young family members thriving and seeing people at happy events 😀 I need to factor gift money into monthly budget like house insurance and esb.