My 18 year marriage has been struggling for a while. Lots of verbal abuse and parental alienation from his side. DD14 is currently getting tested for ADHD and her behaviour in school and at home is very challenging.
Yesterday I took her phone and devices due to more bad comments in school. She found where I hid the phone and it was a while before I noticed as she went to her hobbie with the phone. DH knew she had taken the phone and let her have it. When she got home I asked for the phone. She had an absolute meltdown, screaming, cursing, crying. My DH had to wrestle the phone of her. I was pushed into the wall by DD and called a stupid fuck.
I went downstairs and she continued to slam the bedroom door, opening and then slamming it. I was downstairs, DH was upstairs. He then charged into her room and was screaming at her and said "I will kill you if you don't stop". He didn't know I was recording this on my phone from the hall. I text him to say you shouldn't have done that and it was his fault as he should have taken the phone of her when he first noticed it. As usual I get text messages call calling me an alcoholic, unfit mother etc. The usual response from him. I did have a drink but was not drunk.
After a while I headed up to bed to find he had locked our bedroom door. I asked him to unlock it and was told "no, fuck of or I will ring the Gardai". He always threatens to do this as he knows I get scared. We has lots of police involvement in my home when my parents were separating. I said , I will call them if you don't unlock the door. He wouldn't open it so I rang them. Gardai turn up. They speak to him upstairs, I can here him saying" she's an alcoholic, she's drunk". Garda came down to talk to me and confirmed I wasn't drunk. DH said I want Tusla involved because she's an alcoholic. That's all he kept saying. Garda spoke to me and said the older kids want to stay with their father so had I somewhere to go for the night, obviously I didn't. Garda was quite insistent that I leave as that was the kids wishes. I refused, explained how abusive DH is. He asked me why I didn't report it. Told him what was the point as he denies everything and I've nowhere to go anyway.
I'm the end DH agreed to sleep downstairs and i heard the Garda say he would follow up tomorrow.
Obviously it's going to reported to Tusla. Whst will happen?