Preschool friends in other class in primary

[Charbead49]

My daughter is moving to a primary with 3 of her preschool friends, where they have two classes there. Found out yesterday she is in one class and the other 3 in another. She and I presumed she would be with one or three.

Apparently they don't look at the preschool but age/location/gender.

I am so incredibly sad and frustrated, mostly on her behalf that this could happen. She will be devastated.

Is this normal?b Aren't these preschool relationships so important? Why do they bother asking the preschool to fill out forms?

Any advice welcome

It'll be grand, honestly. Their friendships change practically instantly at the start of primary school and she'll see her preschool friends at break.

Thanks, I am actually not too worried about that part but that's not the same for everyone.

In principle I think it's mad to do it and give her a bad first experience.

Yes it happens every year. The schools look at making even classes with autumn, spring and summer births, sex, etc so they have an even distribution of children. There will be plenty of free flow in reception so your daughter will still see her friends on a daily basis, she just won't be doing her sit down activities with them

No, the preschool relationships aren’t super important. Seeing some familiar faces will be comforting, but as your child matures and they meet more people, those early relationships are often left behind for ones less based on circumstance and more based on real bonds of friendship.

I know it's upsetting but it will be okay. It's actually the best year for it to happen as friendships change so quickly and they mix a lot between the classes in the early years anyway (at least they did at my DC school).

It's far worse when it happens halfway through primary and they have well established friendship groups and one child gets split from the group.

I totally understand. But try not to worry. My daughters both had this happen but then part through reception they moved some kids in my older daughters class, and for my younger one going into year 1 and they all ended up back together. I guess the teachers saw what good friends they were and they got on?! I don’t know but anyway try not to panic as it may change.

Sorry, what genuinely don't know what you mean here. I thought you were looking for reassurance, it honestly won't be that big a deal. No reason for it to be a bad first experience at all.

The reassurance is great but ultimately we will get through and over it .

I just didn't realise it was standard practice to not check where they are coming from. Wouldn't it be good to do 2 and 2?

It will be hard for her as she thinks they are together.

Our school asks you to write names down of their friends and makes sure they are with at least one or two. They also did the same and asked the kids when moving kids up to the next year.

You are being dramatic.

Very young children make friends very quickly

By saying we will get over it, I'm being dramatic?

Sure, ok, good addition to the thread.

Surprised that people think a child being split from her friends wouldn't affect them. She will make others in probably the short term, but I'm talking about her first week/month.

I am so incredibly sad and frustrated, mostly on her behalf that this could happen. She will be devastated

This is what you said. This is a ridiculous over reaction to what is happening. Some children start school without knowing any other children at all. It's totally fine and completely normal. Your DD won't be devastated. She'll make new friends quickly.

Yes my other child started knowing noone. Actually a much easier situation.

Heaven forbid a mother is emotional.

Why don't you find another thread?