Going rate for wedding gift

[Jojomon]

My last Irish wedding attendance was about 2 years ago when we were told the going rate was €100 per head.

We paid that although we had travel and hotel costs that weren’t cheap coming from the UK. We are 2 adults and 3 adult children (1 a student).

We have been invited to another wedding at Christmas.

Has the going rate increased to say €150?

It’s DH’s niece and the wedding is in Cork if that makes any difference. Thanks!

I don't live in Ireland either, but I do go back for family weddings.

IMO, a) there's quite a range of what is normal, and most decent people won't expect you to give what you can't afford.

b) in your situation, it depends how many people you're giving from. It's not a case of just calculating x per person, a couple can get away with giving less than double. I expect your adult children will give separately, but if you're covering them too then a family gift would not be 5x an individual.

FWIW, I would say €100 for an individual is acceptable. On the lower end for a close relative like a niece, but not remarkably so, particularly if you're paying a lot to be there

If you're all going in together as such then I would say 500 would be the minimum given that all the children are adults. If they are contributing to the pot then I would probably up the total to 600 at least. I know, it's crazy but that's how it's done here! You can of course give much less or nothing at all but it will be noted, just saying.

I am married 14 years but had a family of 8 give 200 euro....another very well off couple gave 80 euro. 2 cousins and their partners gave absolutely nothing, not even a card! Our venue was 130 euro a head even 14 years ago. No couple gave more than 250. If going to a wedding of a niece as a couple I would give 200 now. I used to give 250/300 even for friends until I saw how stingy people were towards us! 🙈

€250 per couple so €500 plus €100 for the single student . So €600 especially as the bride is a niece . Are one of you Irish ? If so you shouldn't be surprised at this amount. Attending a wedding is costly business these days on Ireland.

We got married 7 years ago and dh’s sister gave us €500. It was her, her dh and 4 kids. (1 adult/student kid, 2 teens and a child. I thought that was very generous at the time.