Looks like I've been duped by a married man

[itsonlylove]

So I've been on AIBU about this earlier. Man from the west living and working in the south sun- fri and I have been chatting g in line just this week.
He has said he's going home for the weekend to see his kids and that he's separated living with his wife . She had an affair with a colleague so he says. They're separated .
I'm mid forties and so is he . A professional father of three kids ranging from 13-16 approx. Fit, tall and active .
He basically told me today that he would contact me again on sun night as he will be off line until then.
Now I know that these things can happen but honestly would he be genuine do you think and if you think you know him please dm me. I think he's given me a false name and I've no photos .
We were to exchange photos but I was too busy to do so.
This was done to me by my exh and the pain and torture that my kids have gone through is indescribable Suffice to say that they're still in a bad place years on.
Thoughts please ?

Ok so have you ever met in person? You describe him as fit tall and attractive but also say you've never exchanged photos so want to know if you just mean you've not got an actual photo of him or you've never seen him

Doesn't sound genuine to me. My guess is he isn't separated and is very much married that's why he can't contact you until Sunday night. He can't let her see him on his phone all the time

He described himself to me. Possibly all lies

I'd like to describe myself as willowy and youthful. I'm actually postmenopausal and very average height.

Why would you trust his (too good to be true?) description?

I'd prepare for disappointment here. Been there, burnt the T shirt.

I would say he works away during the week and wants a distraction and some entertainment and goes home to his beautiful wife and kids on the weekends.

Another thread on this. It's he worth all this hand wringing!? You'll never be able to trust him unless you've got to him him and den his life inside out... But do you really want to get in that deep in a gamble.
No one here can tell you his truth.
You know how it looks.

Come on OP. You know this.

Also how did you meet then? 'Online' I usually take to mean an app like Tinder? Which has photos. I know they can be faked but you said you don't have any?

I don't understand your thread title...you haven't been duped...you've worked out very early on and are wise to his type. Just block and move on

yeah, I'm 6ft 4 and I look like Henry Cavill as the Witcher.... honest guv

(clue, I dont)

OP why have you started another thread about this? You don’t even know this bloke. You don’t even know what he looks like, he’s just a name on a screen. So block and move on.

You haven’t been duped, you’ve started chatting to someone online who turns out not to be what they say they are. The internet is full of people who live out a fantacy on the internet. Even mn.

Oh and, I’m a super model.

Seriously even if he’d been legit someone describing themselves as fit and attractive would have me running for the hills. I mean how much does someone like that love themselves?

Oh god I hope this isn't the same OP as the 'sleep with my friend's dad' one. There's a similar vibe to posts.

TBH it sounds like hassle so ditch. Plenty of lovely single fellas in the west!

I've met him, he is tall, handsome and telling the truth.

I've met him, he's the spit of Danny Devito and actually has 7 kids to two wives.

How are we supposed to know?

Oh blimey, okay. Missed the first one(s).

I'm sorry, but what are you thinking about asking on a global forum - if you think you know him?

I don't think you're ready for dating OP. Really. Be kind to yourself first and have a good long rest from trying to be with someone.

This is Craicnet and odds are, as Ireland is a village someone on here probably knows the guy, or his wife. Or his sister. He supposedly works in the south and then goes home to the west at the weekend.
I think OP said he was an engineer but he could have made that up too.

No photos, so how do you know he's fit tall and active? Never met, so how do you know his real age or qualifications.

Maybe he's just a more convincing fantasist than you are.

I did forget that now.

It's Patrick isn't it? Up to his old tricks.

I shall be having words with his mam.

".......having words with his Mam"

It's funny that would frighten him more than his wife knowing. 😂

Firstly, men living with their wives are a no go area, separated or not. So block him and forget about him.

Secondly, who cares who he is/ whether anyone knows him etc. So far he is words on a screen, nothing more. The whole relationship is in your mind, shift that energy elsewhere.

Can you not find him on social media or LinkedIn to check has he at least given you a real name and photo? Reverse google image search or similar?

If he doesn't exist on social media then he's probably lying or covering up and you can therefore deduce that he's married.

Sorry I see he hasn't given you a photo. What does a search throw up on his name?