Wedding gift cash - how much?

[Dynamicsloth]

I’m attending an Irish wedding next month. I’ve been advised it’s usual to gift cash nowadays at Irish weddings. How much? Is €100 too little? Don’t want to come across as mean. The bride and groom are in their 30s, professionals, both from affluent families etc.

@Dynamicsloth "Why not just make it openly "pay to attend" and sell tickets or something."

You have a point !!

I'm getting married this summer and would genuinely hate anyone attending to be worrying about how much to gift us.

I want people to be there number 1. If they want to give us a gift or cash that's great, but only as much as they feel comfortable with.

One of my biggest worries is that I'm going to get upset and worked up about the rich friend / relative who will inevitably end up 'forgetting' to give us anything even though we gave them eg £100 when they married.

However this only allows to a few people hello rich brother who never gets a round in

Most of my friends are much more normal and I don't expect anything off then at all and would hate them to be stressing about this out going without something to squeeze a few extra notes into a card because they felt they needed to

I'm just laughing at myself thinking how ridiculous this is and I am. We are going to my dp's cousin's wedding next year, and I just wanted to get an idea of what you would gift a cousin. It is in ROI. We gave my sister £250 for her wedding (UK) and I was thinking about £150 for his cousin. We will also be spending around a thousand travelling there and staying in hotels. I'm pretty sure that his cousin will be happy with this, and if she was to be ungrateful, I don't think I could carry on any form of relationship. The best thing is though, when I suggest to my dp that we give £150, he'll go bat shit crazy and say £50 is enough 😂

Why does a single person have to pay more than each half of a couple does?! Don't we have enough sodding expenses going to a wedding and having to travel, pay for hotel, etc, etc on our own? I'm glad this was not the norm when all my friends got married.

About €100 per adult is the norm here in Ireland. However, I'm getting married soon and have family coming over from the UK and wouldn't expect anything like that from them. They're already paying for flights and two nights accommodation.