Irish funeral could anyone answer this please?

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Hi is anyone here familier with a Catholic funeral in particular one in Ireland that could answer this question for me please?

I have a relative (extended family member) who passed away recently. I attended the wake and funeral. The months mind is on this week and I'm struggling to get time off work to attend. I'm just wondering is it bad form if I cannot attend?
Thank you

No the months mind is open to all, but usually close family and very close friends , won't be seen as bad form.

No, not at all, the month's mind is usually close family, maybe some neighbours. It is a much smaller mass, often it will just be added into the usual daily mass in the Chapel.

I don't think anyone takes time off or travels for a months mind, unless close family

I would only go to the months mind of immediate family, parents/siblings/grandparents. Aunts/uncles/cousins I’d go if I was available, probably depending on how close I was. It really wouldn’t be expected, in my family anyway, that people fly back to come to come to a months mind.

Same here, only really for immediate family, so parent, sibling, child (god forbid), maybe a grandparent.
Sorry for your loss.

My mother died three weeks ago, she always said that if we had a Months mind and put anyone to the trouble and hassle of trying to get there, she would rise up out of her coffin and haunt us the children.

HTH

It's not an expectation turn up for the month's mind. Don't worry, not going won't raise any eyebrows. You went to the wake and the funeral, round here many people only go to one of those unless they are close family or friends.

No, not a social faux pas if you can't attend. Just a phone call etc will suffice.

No not bad form at all. Often people who couldn't make the funeral might make an extra effort for the months mind but I wouldn't worry in your situation.

Thank you for all the replies was feeling the pressure about it but think it was more me not wanting to do the wrong thing and cause upset in the family.

No IMHO you wouldn't be expected to attend, it's more for immediate family/ close friends.
If you are nervous about it, maybe you could send a card or a message to the family saying you are thinking of them.

I did't attend my mother's month mind.
I live in England so wasn't prepared to go bacxk so soon.
Don't think anyone minded.

I am Irish living in Ireland, i have been to lots of funerals but have never attended a month's mind, not a big deal at all.