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Tuam - beyond comprehension

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MrsDustyBusty · 03/03/2017 15:42

So it seems like the initial investigation into the graves (for want of a better word) in Tuam is even more horrific than had been imagined.

www.rte.ie/news/2017/0303/856914-tuam-mother-baby/

Poor, poor women. Poor, poor babies.

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honeyrider · 11/03/2017 00:34

I've copied this from facebook, it's very powerful.

Here follows one of the most powerful commentaries on the Tuam babies scandal I’ve seen in recent days. Written by the formidable Brenda Power, it appeared in Tuesday’s edition of the Irish Daily Mail. I transcribed it from an unsharp pic I made of the printed article so hope it’s faithful to the original!

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THE HORROR INFLICTED ON THE TUAM BABIES IS A LOT CLOSER TO THE FINAL SOLUTION THAN WE’D LIKE TO ADMIT

Tubes of red lipstick were among the first provisions the Allies delivered to the newly liberated inmates of Auschwitz concentration camp in January 1945. Along with the food and medicine that would revive theIr emaciated bodies, along with the warm clothing that would replace their threadbare rags, some kind souls realised that the thousands of shaven-headed women in the concentration camp needed more than their physical selves restored.

They also needed to reclaim the femininity, the expression of their human identity, that their captors had stolen.

In their rags and their stubble and their fleshless forms, they’d long since ceased to see themselves as women; they were just rattlebags of skin and bones in a sea of walking cadavers. They didn’t see themselves as women because their captors’ first objective had been to dehumanise them, to strip them of every mortal trait in an effort to process them through the death camps with maximum efficiency. Even the Nazis couldn’t have watched still-breathing bodies—the pace of work meant that the gas chambers didn’t always have time to complete their task—being crammed into the crematoria if they’d seen them as fellow humans.

In this country, for several decades of the last century, so-called “religious orders” ran the mother-and-baby homes that we now believe to have been dying rooms for unwanted infants. Following the discovery of a “significant number” of infant remains in cesspits in Tuam, with perhaps as many as 800 tiny corpses dumped in septic tank vaults, it now looks ominously likely that similar finds will be made in other former homes and laundries run by the men and women of God. As many as 4,000 children, according to some estimates, died in these places over four decades. Their causes of death might be dysentery, or convulsions, or fever, but the root cause was neglect, starvation and cold. They were left to die, in their hundreds and possibly thousands. And it is inconceivable that this level of mortality could have been achieved without a mindset that mirrored that of the genocidal Nazis: before you can starve, neglect and ill-treat another human to the point of death, you must first deny their humanity to the appeasement of your own conscience.

Before you could watch a baby die of hunger or hypothermia or disease for want of milk or warmth or simple medical care, you must have convinced yourself that the infant was not fully human at all. Before you could wrap a child’s emaciated corpse in an old rag and lay it on a pile of older bones—one observer described the stacked bundles as looking like mineral bottles wrapped in cloth—you must first have detached it from every association with a “normal” infant.

That was why the children in these homes were deprived of toys, games and treats as deliberately as they were starved of affection and food. They were denied affirmation of their childhood as consciously as women in Auschwitz were denied expressions of their femininity: to make them easier to process as units of inconvenient existence. Over the weekend, one survivor described his bewilderment when his kindly foster parents, who took him in at the age of five, began to decorate a Christmas tree. He had learned nothing of Christmas traditions, in the care of a Catholic religious order; he’d never heard of Santa Claus and he’d never seen a strand of tinsel or received a toy in his life.

VULNERABILITY

PJ Haverty, who lived in Tuam until the age of seven, has described his fear when he met a strange creature bounding towards him as he walked in the gate of his new foster parents’ farm. He’d never seen a dog—not in a picture book, not as a toy, and certainly never in reality. The mentality that would deliberately blind itself to a child’s instinctive playfulness, curiosity and endearing vulnerability, because of a hatred of the “sin” that child represented, has more in common with the Final Solution than is comfortable for us to admit.

The response of the Bon Secours order to the discoveries in Tuam was truly staggering: they found no room in their legally drafted statement to pity the poor babies dumped in a septic tank, to pray for their mothers and to beg mercy for the people who put them there. But in the rush to judgement and blame, we need to remember that the people who put them there weren’t just the ones who swaddled their dead bodies and piled them into a filthy crypt; they were also the mothers and fathers of the incarcerated women, the aunts and the uncles and the grandparents, the employers and the priests and the gossips and the parish worthies; they were also the men who impregnated these women and then walked away without ever troubling to wonder: “What became of the child?”

It is easy to point the finger at a few elderly nuns who might have been in Tuam, or in any of the other institutions now coming under renewed scrutiny, at the time these bodies were dumped, and to say they were to blame for this policy and for this inhumanity. But the orders were acting with the imprimatur of a society that did not trouble itself with the fate of unmarried women and their children. They were acting with the tacit approval of those families, and those men who fathered the babies, who were perfectly happy for them to disappear.

And there’s no comforting absolution in the myth that all these unwanted infants were believed to have been adopted by loving, childless couples, or despatched to better lives with rich families in America. The locals knew exactly who and where they were; they heard their hobnail boots ringing out on the road, each morning, as these children—boys and girls in the same ugly uniforms, the same ill-fitting footwear—were marched to the local school at a safe distance from the youngsters of the parish. They knew the children from the “home” were punished each day for being late, even though they’d been deliberately held back so they would not mix with the “normal” pupils; they knew they were kept apart at lunchtime so they couldn’t play with the others.

They knew the unwanted babies hadn’t gone on to better lives; they knew they were living the most miserable, loveless, impoverished existences of permanent hunger and cold and neglect right in their midst, and they facilitated and colluded, by their silence, in the torture of these unfortunate children. And if any of those guilty men stopped to wonder if they had a son or a daughter among them, if any of the parents and grandparents and aunts and uncles who had sent a girl to a mother-and-baby home asked themselves if these starved, skinny urchins might include their own flesh and blood, they managed to stifle their concerns very efficiently indeed.

We will, as the Garda investigation into the Tuam find commences, interrogate the orders and the religious who ran these homes. But we must also interrogate the society that permitted these hideous crimes to be perpetrated in plain sight. We have to confront the fact that people we knew and loved, the teachers and priests we were taught to respect, the communities and parishes where we grew up, were among those turning a blind eye to the convenient disappearances of all those unwanted babies.

We have to face the fact that our own people and our own places knew all about the ragged and hungry-looking children who never played and never smiled, and that these people, too, were just as guilty of refusing to see them as children at all.

mikado1 · 11/03/2017 08:07

Oh that is heart breaking.

Leftatthecorner · 11/03/2017 08:23

So so shocking.

Why hasnt it been formally excavated and the bodies exhumed?

Amber76 · 11/03/2017 08:29

My Dad is 72 and grew up in a rural area. No tv, etc and no real outside influences. They had no car, no phone, etc. The priest was massively influential. I think its hard to understand just how hard it was for people of that time to 'go against norms'.

mikado1 · 11/03/2017 08:51

I agree Amber, impossible really now to understand /imagine the mentality and the 'do what you're told' blind following of nuns and others.

Knifegrinder · 11/03/2017 09:01

banivani in reply to your question 'why Ireland?', the short answer is that Catholicism became a crucial part of post-independence Irish identity in terms of the new post-colonial state flexing its muscles in self-determination and distinguishing itself from Britain, the history of older British suppression of Irish religious freedom in the Penal Laws etc, and the long relationship between Catholicism and Irish nationalism. Post-1922, the state tried to resurrect/protect what it considered key parts of Irish identity, and the 1937 constitution enshrined Catholicism in a special, and very powerful place which meant the church and the political hierarchy were meshed. It's not just a matter of a cowed and ignorant populace 'not speaking out'.

Knifegrinder · 11/03/2017 09:28

I just realised that sounded practically apologist! I just meant that the political muscle of Catholicism in 20thc Ireland, that led to the 'they knew but didn't/couldn't challenge' atmosphere around the horrors of magdalen laundries, mother and baby homes, industrial schools etc didn't happen inexplicably.

Incidentally, I knew (though my mother) three elderly women who spent their lives in the last magdalen laundry in Ireland to shut, and none of them would hear a word against the nuns who ran it. One of them used to turn off the radio when anything about reparation, investigations, tribunals came on I think a combination of enforced passivity, brainwashing and repressed trauma. The details of the early life of the youngest of the three, the one I've seen most of, are horrible her 'family' (I don't know this for sure, but I think she was born of an incestuous relationship) bounced her in and out of the home according to whether they needed an extra pair of hands on the farm or not, kept her from school and half-starved her, and then stopped taking her out at all, when the older generation died off, but she's still terribly loyal to them, too.

Mathena · 11/03/2017 11:51

That's true KnifeGrinder. My ancestors on one side CofI and there are some unbelievable and supressed acts of violence and oppression against them and it's a miracle I'm here typing this, my grandfather escaped running with bullets fired at him as he ran. But nobody want(ed/s) to hear about that. So, you're right, Catholicism was the identity, the separate peg upon which the New Ireland was hung. My ancestors considered themselves to be Irish, so this new Identity had to be specifically Catholic. My own family's folklore includes a story of going to get a young girl and her baby and being told no. They weren't bound by the same guilt and shame but they were obstructed every step of the way from attempting to 'rescue' a young woman who they wanted to help.

Mathena · 11/03/2017 11:57

Stockholm Syndrome Knifegrinder. I suppose to confront in late middle age that you had been handed over for a life of servitude and abuse, well, it requires such bravery and intelligence, and strength, to tackle that and come out the other side. Easier to turn the radio off. I get it.

hollyisalovelyname · 11/03/2017 14:29

Thanks Honeyrider I hadn't seen the article.

Rachel0Greep · 11/03/2017 21:38

Thanks for that article honey.

My heart is breaking for the people mentioned by Knifegrinder - I'm guessing it's a coping mechanism and I also hope that maybe somebody showed them some kindness along the way.

Going back to the Brenda Power article, and I know it is something that Catherine Corless also alludes to - the fact that the 'home children' were kept separate from the others, I find that absolute heartbreaking. They were just little children.... Unreal.

Rachel0Greep · 11/03/2017 21:58

PJ Haverty, who lived in Tuam until the age of seven, has described his fear when he met a strange creature bounding towards him as he walked in the gate of his new foster parents’ farm. He’d never seen a dog—not in a picture book, not as a toy, and certainly never in reality. The mentality that would deliberately blind itself to a child’s instinctive playfulness, curiosity and endearing vulnerability, because of a hatred of the “sin” that child represented, has more in common with the Final Solution than is comfortable for us to admit.

This is beyond heartbreaking to me. I do hope that at least some of the children did find happiness with good foster parents. I can't help thinking too of the effect on the children as they saw / heard of the others who died. Sad

honeyrider · 11/03/2017 23:39

My nephew was treated very negatively right through primary school and in secondary school by his teachers because my sister was 15 when she had him. This was right through the 90's/early 00's, that's not long ago and it has affected him.

123MothergotafleA · 12/03/2017 08:35

That's a wonderful piece by Brenda Power, it says it all really.

gabsdot · 12/03/2017 11:39

I'd like to see fields of graves, like the war graves in France to remind us all.
It's just shameful and many, many people are to blame.

talkingtoclarry · 13/03/2017 15:34

Oh that article is just heartbreaking Sad

cocodidit1 · 13/03/2017 20:52

I just can't stomach it, I had a conversation with my DM the other day. She claimed that the nuns were doing their best and the families were to blame for dumping the young women at their doorsteps. I nearly got sick with rage there and then. Catholic Ireland has had its influence on the older generation and nothing will erase its propaganda.
Its a terrible pity of such normally logical people. It was the fucking church who had put the "shame" into the heads of the people in the first place. Such a horrific organisation. Bad people

WorriedLAC · 14/03/2017 12:04

Absolutely heart wrenching

SparkyBlue · 14/03/2017 15:37

It's horrible I feel sick to my stomach just thinking about those Babies. I think it is important to remember that not every unmarried girl who was pregnant got sent to a home. My aunt stayed at home with my super religious grandparents and raised her son and this was the early seventies. The lady who cleans our workplace had her elsest daughter as a single teenager back in the seventies as well and also remained at home with her family. Also at school several girls were from single parent households and this was the eighties. However I am from a working class background and I believe there was a big difference. My aunt said it was a seven day wonder locally and after that no one cared. I think it was different in rural communities and more middle class families

HebeBadb · 14/03/2017 16:12

There were 'home children' in one of my schools. They weren't excluded exactly but looking back on it, they were so quiet, they were not cherished , they hadn't much confidence to speak out I think. And it sounds shallow but their clothes and hair were always really poor looking.

hollyisalovelyname · 14/03/2017 17:40

Sparky I also think that it was in earlier times ( than the 1970's) there was such stigma.
I think Tuam closed in 1961 or 62.

SparkyBlue · 14/03/2017 19:32

Oh I know that * hollyisalovelyname but even then there were families where the baby was reared with the other children as another sibling. Not every pregnant girl was put into a home. There often seems to be a misconception that having a child outside of marriage was against the law which it wasn't. Individual families looked after their own daughters. Not for one second am I saying that these girls had it easy as they were the talk of the town and the source of local gossip. My mils elderly neighbour actually had three children before she married and that was in the fifties. Sorry I don't mean to go off in a tangent but I honestly believe these girls families are responsible as well.

MarDhea · 14/03/2017 19:43

The Washington Post has an interview with a man who grew up in the Tuam home til he was fostered out. He talks about how he learned not to make friends with the other children because they keeps disappearing (adoption or death). It's heartbreaking. Sad
www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2017/03/13/a-survivor-recalls-the-mother-and-baby-home-at-tuam-in-ireland-where-friends-just-disappeared-one-after-the-other/

Rachel0Greep · 14/03/2017 23:26

I had been thinking about that MarDhea - how it must have affected the other children, seeing others disappear, whether to be fostered, or when the poor little mites passed away.
The image of a four year old, standing alone, rips my heart out...

Rachel0Greep · 14/03/2017 23:29

I do hope that some of the little babies fostered out of there did go on to be loved and cherished.

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