2 year old, a cot, and a c section...

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I'm really conflicted about what to do.

I have a 21 month old who sleeps well in his cot. He weighs 14 kilos.

Pregnant with baby #2 due in May and planning a CS due to various reasons including an EMCS the first time round - that's really not what this thread is about though.

DP will be off work or working part time for 6 weeks but after that his normal schedule includes 2 days a week when he won't be home until 8/8:30pm meaning I'll have to do bedtime on my own.

I don't think DS1 is anywhere near ready for a bed, he's go go go from the moment he wakes up but at the same time I will not be able to move him by myself when I'm recovering from a CS.

His night time routine is to read a book with me when cuddle with dad and then go to bed. When DP is working late I do both book and cuddles.

I think my options realistically are to

1. Push bedtime back on DP'S long days
2. Transition to a bed and deal with the fallout

Both options sound awful. Does anyone have any advice?

You'll be fine to lift him into his cot after 6 weeks.

Agree completely with first poster.

DS was in a bed from 18 months as he learned to climb out of his cot even in his sleeping bag and we decided it was safer to put him in a bed.

To be honest it wasn't that hard to do, his was quite low to the ground and had a guard rail on one side the other side was against the wall. Yes he would get up in the morning and I'd have to take him downstairs, but he was sharing with his sister at the time or I would have encouraged him to play in his room in the morning.

What time is his bedtime? I think you're likely to be fine 6 weeks in, but if not then could you realistically cuddle with him u til your dh gets home and can transfer him to the cot?

I had a planned c section when my eldest was two and was able to pick him up quite quickly after.

Everyone recovers at a different rate, but I think the recovery from a planned section is generally easier than an EMCS. You may find that it's not an issue by the time your partner goes back to work.

If you don't feel comfortably able to put him in his cot, could you do bedtime in your bed and and let your husband move him when he gets in?

I changed to a bed for my toddler (15m) a few months before my C-section & it was the best decision