Bed tents and autistic kids shared bedroom

[RareTiger]

I have:
ds turning 5 soon autistic with control issues
Dd turning 3 soon with possible autism, adhd, and auditory processing disorder
Both have sensory issues too

Ss(social services) are involved because of my ds control issues turning to anger and meltdowns, we have a small 2 bed flat we are on the council list to move but it will be years, ss wants us to give my ds control over the kids bedroom as she said when he meltdowns he need the bedroom my Dd will not be allowed in there and the door needs to be shut. Don't get me wrong I understand why she said this but I think it's wrong of me to block my Dd from her own room especially because we don't have the space for her toys in the living room

We are moving there room around anyway (getting rid of bunk beds, setting up floor beds) and I was thinking of putting a curtain up to divide the room into two but oh veto'ed this saying to kids will pull the curtain down (Dd trys to wrap herself in the one into the living room) so I had a thought of getting bed tents so they can shut them self's away and add some sensory lighting and toys, but the tents are around the £100 mark

Anyway I thought would a pop up tent (£30 +15% discount in shop + %10 scouts discount) work for now? Till after Christmas and birthdays them I will replace with better ones

Is it a good idea? Or am I going down the wrong path and should try something else?

My ds and Dd both liked to sleep in the play tent when we had it but it was too small and ended up getting broken

You would have to push social care but they could fund a Safespace https://safespaces.co.uk/safespace/ which would create a room within the room. Social care might need to look at some wall padding etc anyway depending on what your child does when they meltdown. You could also apply to Family Fund for a small grant.

Would you be entitled to a family fund grant? This is exactly the kind of thing they help with.
www.familyfund.org.uk/

Thanks but we can afford a safespace and not entitled to the grant

As an autistic, with an autistic daughter, during our childhoods we’ve both found pop up tents to be beneficial to meet our need for privacy