Bed situation at other parents house

[Shanstraw9X]

My soon to be 8 year old son came back from his dads house tonight and told me he’s sharing a room with his sister who is dads and step mums child , sister is about 3 years old which is fine it’s only a few nights a week. However he said he sleep on just a mattress with a sleeping bag . And that previously he was on a camp bed in dads room again with a sleeping bag as he no longer could share with his younger brother as brother is autistic so needed his own space which is totally fair! Need advice on whether I should be mad about the mattress and sleeping bag . I just feel if there is room for a matress there is room for a bed and that he should have proper bedding as it should be his home aswell not just a visiting spot

Is your son upset about this?
Does his half-sister have a bed?

it’s appalling
how often is he there?

i would guess relations are appalling between the two of you. And he won’t do a thing you suggest.

So in your shoes i’d message

“I’d prefer that DS has proper bedding whilst with you, but appreciate you may not agree. So would you agree to me providing him with some when he is with you”

to sleep on a mattress is fine.

However i’d want a duvet and pillow rather than a sleeping bag

And that previously he was on a camp bed in dads room again with a sleeping bag as he no longer could share with his younger brother as brother is autistic so needed his own space which is totally fair!
Did he have a bed in the room he shared with brother? Is brother your dc too? When did they stop sharing?

They had bunk beds but he wasn’t able to sleep as his younger brother kept him awake all night , so I only have the one child with him which is the 8 year old ,

He said he doesn’t like it as it’s not got his stuff in the room , irs all her room which he sleeps in when he’s there . He’s there on average two nights a week

They need to move the bunk beds in to her room and let him have an area for his things if he is there so frequently. He’s not a visitor. It should be his home too

100% they’re not amazing , everything has to be his way or no way . I don’t mind the mattress it’s more the fact he can’t provide him with bedding , it’s a basic thing to give him . He has his own room as his dads mums house so does stay there more often because of that but he should be made to feel like he is able to sleep at dads in a nice duvet and pillow set

accept your ex won’t do anything about it

So you sort him with a duvet and pillow

the important thing is your DS sleeps comfortable and if that means you paying up even though your ex should undoubtedly pay… so be it