Do you charge adult child living at home housekeeping for when he is away on holiday

[HonestMoose]

My 28yo son is living at home. He earns £45k and pays £350.00 housekeeping per month. My husband and I struggle with household bills coming in left right and centre but want to help son save for house deposit. We cant afford a holiday but son is going away for 2 weeks to Europe on mega holiday with girlfriends family (again!) which he has paid for. My question is should I charge a full months housekeeping even though he is away for half the month or just charge for the weeks he is here? He will bring home all his washing for me to do too.

I’m actually astounded that as a 28 year old man, earning 45k a year, he thinks £350 a month all in, including his washing being done for him, is a decent enough contribution towards a household he lives in.

A future cocklodger for sure.

Please can I come and lodge at your house - £350 a month sounds like an absolute bargain
No wonder he’s not saving enough to leave

A) He pays while on holiday. That's non negotiable
B) He does his own laundry and cleans his room
C) You should work out the household budget excepting mortgage and divide into 3 plus his share of food [or he starts to buy and cook that too]. I would tell him that his rent is going up to market value on 1 October. He has 30 days notice
D) Your decision as to whether you retain any of the new rent and save it for him as a surprise but at least you have a buffer for emergencies.
E) You sit down with your husband and figure out how you are going to manage when he inevitably moves out. Do you need to downsize, rent out his room ?

Of course you should. Bills still need to paid whether he is there or not. He’s 28 not 18. That’s a great wage and he should be paying more to you each month.

I have to pay rent when I’m on holiday therefore your son should too 🤣

Are you serious?! I paid £350 30 years ago to my parents before I moved out at 19 🤣

I would personally charge more rent.

Please stop doing his laundry. He’s nearly 30!

Maybe charge £250 for that month as he won’t be eating any food at home (is his board money includes food, if it doesn’t charge him the same).

I have three younger adult siblings who have well-paying careers and still live at home with our parents. They help out with household chores like laundry and cooking. They don’t pay rent because our parents don’t see their children as tenants or clients. Instead, they cover their own expenses and take care of all the bills, which is a fair arrangement everyone agreed on after thoughtful discussions. This setup lets our parents enjoy their retirement funds without anyone, aside from the ever-eager government, taking an unfair share.

I think you should charge him £900 rent but save £550
for him

Hmm, I wonder when he’s planning to move out given that he’s 28 and not saving much for a deposit? 40?

If you’d like him to move out in the not-too-distant future, you need to sit down with him and work out a reasonable timeline. Otherwise this will go in indefinitely.

If you’re not bothered, fair enough, but perhaps you and your DH have plans to downsize, for example, given that you struggle with your current household bills.

@Unexpectedlysinglemum They could but at 28, he really should be saving himself. He’s far too old to have his parents managing his money!

He should be doing his own washing - he needs to be better prepared for when he leaves home imo

Charge him much more. It’s just over 10% of what he earns

many charge 25/30%

dont save his money to give to him if you are struggling - thats insane

yes he pays while away as would if lives on his own

he needs to start saving for own place

We pro rata housekeeping/rent when our DC are away.

Longer he takes to save his deposit, longer you've got him paying your bills for you... I think he pays a lot of rent to live at home with his parents when ultimately you chose to bring him into the world - give him a chance to live his life.

It sounds like you and your husband need better paying jobs long term.

So your son has paid for himself, his girlfriend and his girlfriend’s family to go on holiday whilst his bleeding you dry at home.

Ok.

of course you charge him and please stop doing his washing!! Why wouldn’t you think part of parenting is producing a capable adult? One who does his own washing because why would anyone else do it for him? Do his girlfriend a huge favour and stop.

Where are you reading he paid for the whole family to go on holiday? I think he just paid for himself to join them on holiday.

The lad is paying £350 rent on an income of close to £3000 after taxes.

I would definitely be looking to up this a little, atleast £500/m.

If he is serious about moving out he can still save a decent amount of money on his wages.