my mental health is at an all time low, i have no money to get out of my marriage

[ZebraMammy17]

I left university with no degree when i became pregnant, i then left a job that was very low income but had the oppertunity to rise in ranks to become a stay at home mam. i feel so stupid now.
i found out my husband was unfaithful, but it's ok because it was online and it didn't mean anything. that's was i was told.
i want out of my marriage but i have no money, the price of everything means that all savings went to paying bills. i have a child in school and one at home with me.
i have to ask my husband for money, he always ask if i'm silly for being upset that i have to ask him for it, as if relying on him is humilating especaially after what hes done to me.
i have basically no employable skills and no qualifications, i'm stuck in a marriage where all i feel for him now is resentment and sadness. i have no family support and i hate myself for getting in this situation, i feel like a stupid tale people warn others about.
i feel so depressed and trapped, whenever i google remote jobs or stay at home side hustle i feel worse, i haven't found one that i feel like i can do in my situation.
if any one has any advise it would be appreciated, but i mainly came here to get it off my chest.
edit: if there's many spelling mistakes i'm sorry I was very emotional

Feel free to get it off your chest.

This situation won’t be the same forever, but you can do something about changes.

I think tackling the work side of things first is a good idea - to give you more confidence and options.

You were at uni, you’ve got some qualifications. I’d look for a big company myself or maybe the civil service, they’re more likely to offer training and to be able to support more flexible working.

What was your uni course in? Did you enjoy it? Could it be an option to complete it with the Open University?

I reckon everything seems so insurmountable at the moment, and that's normal, when you are looking at the big picture

You need to think about what your final outcome goal is then break it down into steps that are manageable

Its not going to be easy, it really isnt, you may find yourself on benefits and living in a B&B, relying on food banks - only you know if you are prepared to do that to escape a marriage

( when I left my husband I lived in a hostel , with £46 a week unemployment benefit , was worth it , but I didn't have children )

Do you have any family support? Parents? siblings? Grandparents who can house you?

No qualifications doesn't exclude you from the job market. There's NMW jobs out there and as a parent you will more than likely be able to claim UC to top up . You are a mother, you have employable skills. You have something to offer. No shame in NMW jobs, gets you on the ladder, gives you breathing space and allows you to hone skills to move up, find out what direction you want to go, get the qualifications needed

Your husband is a dick. He's abusing you. Speak to women's aid, they will help you get the help you need and signpost you to the benefits that are available to you during this transition period

Have faith and belief in yourself.

Yep unfortunately giving up work to become dependent on a man leaves you very vulnerable.

you do still have choices though. You can stay longer while you get a job and get yourself back on your feet enough to support yourself.

or with two young children you could split now and use UC and benefits to pay your bills short term.

do you own your home? Do you think he would leave? In many ways if you rent it will be easier to leave as you have no claim on the house. If you own and you leave you are likely to get a smaller share if you are housed elsewhere.

maybe go and see CAB or women’s aid, see if they can help.

Wikivorce and the CABx website have got lots of information. Gingerbread have a good helpline, they can't give legal advice but can give advice on housing, support, benefits etc

There are lots of professional courses here
https://www.findcourses.co.uk/

If you have children then you are probably still of working age.

Age is your asset here. The fact you are young enough to improve your situation and have recognised that it needs improving means that odds are in your favour of succeeding.

If you did nothing to improve your situation for 40 years, then you may have a reason to feel regret.

But change won't happen overnight and will need lots of small steps - but will absolutely be worth it - from what feels like rock bottom the only way is up.

Not very practical advice I realise but just thought I would cheer you on- you can do it.

This may be helpful : https://nationalcareers.service.gov.uk/

How old are your children op and is your youngest eligible for free nursery hours. If so I would start by getting a par time term time job such as a nursery worker or teaching assistant. Lots of roles will provide a stable income and pay for training. You can then go full time when the kids are a bit older and more independent, as you are married you are entitled to half property value if you divorce. If you are renting you can claim housing benefit to rent on your own and uc. Check the website entitled to to see what you can claim for if you separate or divorce.