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UC - broke up with partner but still live together

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leticiajones88 · 04/05/2025 21:20

It’s just as per the title really

Me and my partner have amicably decided to call it quits on our relationship after 9 years, we have three kids. This isn’t a quick decision, we both haven’t been happy in a while but we remain amicable. He has already started looking in to new places to live but is staying on the sofa with us until he’s sorted. The kids are aware and everything is so far ok.
We have a joint universal credit claim where he is down as being my partner. Do I need to change this now to it being me on my own with the kids and him have his own claim or should we stay as we are until he moves out? We have already discussed the kids would stay with me during the week so would make me ‘main’ parent so to speak.
any advice is helpful thank you

OP posts:
LaurieFairyCake · 05/05/2025 05:53

Won’t you need to change it so he can get UC to rent somewhere else?

converseandjeans · 05/05/2025 08:02

I’d be surprised if he was eligible for much UC as a single male with the children staying in the family home. If anything you could get more as a single parent.

ThatHazelGuide · 05/05/2025 08:12

Just report the change

Bromptotoo · 05/05/2025 08:54

If you're living under the same roof but as two households then you can both claim as single.You'll be asked to provide evidence of stuff like separate finances, no eating together etc.

I suspect that can be a tall order if you're amicably co-parenting.

April2018 · 01/06/2025 15:05

Bromptotoo · 05/05/2025 08:54

If you're living under the same roof but as two households then you can both claim as single.You'll be asked to provide evidence of stuff like separate finances, no eating together etc.

I suspect that can be a tall order if you're amicably co-parenting.

Hi,

How do you prove these things?
How can you prove you don't ear or sleep together?
Also some financial commitments have to stay joint until divorce/separation is final.

Bromptotoo · 01/06/2025 15:11

April2018 · 01/06/2025 15:05

Hi,

How do you prove these things?
How can you prove you don't ear or sleep together?
Also some financial commitments have to stay joint until divorce/separation is final.

The DWP will ask questions which allow them to draw inferences/conclusions. How, for example, might other people perceive the relationship?

They work on balance of probability.

There's a whole chapter of Advice for Decision Makers on living together as married couple.

April2018 · 01/06/2025 19:29

Thank you I have just read through that.

We are going through divorce while living together. Still have joint account that husband pays money into to cover bills only.

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