Living at home with my parents ans child

[ByCoralReader]

So I live at home with my brother,mother and dad, I share my bedroom with my now 7 year old daughter. I have been on the housing register for 5 years and actively look daily. It's is too cramped and over crowded where I share the house with my family and daughter it is just now too much.

I cannot work due to medical reasons and am scared to go the homeless route as you can lose your space on the housing register and be placed anywhere within the Borough and you cannot refuse where you are given.

If anyone could give me any advice that would be much appreciated thanks.

What are the medical reasons - will you never be able to work at all? That's unusual. Could you find something part-time to get back into the world of work? Realistically it's going to be the only way to improve your situation. What about your daughter's dad?

You need to speak with your dr/medical team about getting back to the point where you can work as that will give you options. If you go down the homeless route they can move you anywhere, including to other areas not just across the borough. Can your DDs dad help more? Also emergency housing is quite likely to be a shared room so no difference to your family.

What /who can help you get back working?

So what compromise do you want to make? Because something will have to give, you would either have to go homeless and go on register and accept what you get, and then you will have your own home.
Or possibly get a job and therefore have more of a choice to pick something yourself, go on UC to help pay towards your rent, childcare, etc.
Or wait it out and deal with the long wait…

Wht band are you in? Can you contact the social housing register and ask if they are able to improve your banding due to overcrowding?

Speak to a housing adviser at an independent outfit like Citizens Advice with local knowledge and contacts.

At a more general level Shelter are worth a try.

Oh fgs, there are millions of people who can’t work due to a medical condition.
What exactly makes you doubt it’s not the case fir the OP?

Or are you one if those who think anyone who can’t work is cheating the system because they are too lazy to work and prrefer the high lifestyle of living on benefits and in poverty?

@Brainded what sort of job do you think someone who isn’t fit to work can do?
Please enlighten me.

Actually there's very few medical conditions where you can do no work at all. There are lots where you can do some, building up from part time, maybe with limitations, or where extra qualifications are needed so you're not stuck with manual work. What's the alternative - a life on benefits.

Well generally I assume if someone can raise a child and run a house single handed then they might be able to do SOMETHING. Not necessarily the most strenuous of jobs or 12hour shifts…obviously it depends on their disability.

If you're disabled, you might be better living with family permanently. You have support on hand (I assume your mum and dad are supportive given they let you live with them). Support is available not just for you but also for your daughter. And I say this with kindness, if you're unable to work, taking on sole management of a home and seven year old sounds ambitious, maybe you have carers though?

Or maybe that’s the only thing they can do.
So if they were to work, then they wouldn’t be able to care for their child or themselves???

Or they can only manage with support (the Op doesn’t say anything around that - which is fair enough) like having a cleaner.

etc….

Believe me, few people are finding living on disability benefit easy. Even more so in the conditions the OP describes.

Reference to the fact there are only few conditions that stops people to work?
And even better any info on what are those conditions where you can at the same time get disability benefits AND obviously be able to work (even if part time)? I’d love to see a list or reliable information on that.

Apart from whatever politicians like to tell us, which as you well know, is often very far from the truth.