Need advice

[chlo2022]

I don't know if it's me or not but my partner has just sold his Xbox x to spend a fortune on his computer, I guess it's not up to me what he gets and stuff but I'm pregnant and we have a 7 month old baby as well, he never got time to go on his Xbox in the first place so I don't see how he thinks he's going to get time on his computer, we have around 4 months left until baby number 2 arrives but we have to get some much stuff for the baby and haven't Evan started yet, have I got the right to be Evan upset a little bit? His computer just sits there he never goes on it but in his head he wants to spend nearly £350 on updating parts for.his computer and says I'm not supporting his hobbies!, I do support his hobbies but when it cost a lot of money and he don't Evan have time to go on it with one baby let alone 2, I just feel like hes being inconsiderate, I wouldn't mind I guess if.he.got a few things and once but £350 in one go?!

Hobbies....plural

What else does he do?

Side note but why do you need so much 'stuff' for this baby? Surely you have what your 7 month old has?

Baby clothes, we need 2 prams, a cot
It don't really matter what we need, plus I don't care what he spends it on but when he can play on his computer no problem he just want the best for everything, sometimes you can't have that when your a parent especially when there are so many bills

You will soon have 3 children

He needs to grow up

What’s your general financial position?

I can understand your frustration. Double prams/pushchairs cost a fortune! - which you'll be needing with the very small age gap. And you mention a cot- I would presume your eldest will still be in his/her cot when baby arrives, even if they were ready for a toddler bed and baby had their cot - it's still a bed to buy! I'd be a bit annoyed too.

Did he spend £350 of new money or make that selling the xbox? If it was effectively an exchange then I think fair enough. Do you both have the same spending money after household expenses are paid?

I think he is being insensitive if money is that right - sell the unused Xbox and put the money towards the baby, that’s mature. He is going to have 2 kids under 1 - when are either of you going to find time for hobbies?

He can claim an IOU when the kids are bigger and you’re back at work earning and spend his £350 then.

Well yes, if they need the money then they could both sell things they aren't using. It would be fairer to keep that equal though.

Does he need the computer to help with his job?