Adult children and Christmas presents

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Those with adult children what do you buy them at Christmas ? And do you buy for GF/BF

I have DS 21 (working part time and still living at home) DS19 moved out with his gf earlier this year and going to uni and DS13

DH has DD 26 and DS21 living with their DM. His DS19 goes to uni and also moved out with his gf earlier this year.

Do I still do a stocking as usually bits they need like socks, toiletries etc ?

I find it harder and harder each year without it costing a bloody fortune. Want to try and cut back this year and now they are all relationships.

I would just get them one present each. They are adults and should have understanding that Christmas is expensive! I have an adult son and ones a lot younger! I have got him a gift but he has had his 'time' and it is now for the little ones!

Yes very true Ryan. Thanks

Sorry Rayn silly predictive text.

Have they all got a partner? If so I'd expect them to have their main presents from them. I would buy each one a present, or have a cut-off age eg 21.

Yes they have hollow. Yes I agree with a cut off age as well, was thinking 21 so may do a voucher or something like that. Oh I wish they were all little again

They will understand. So different when they are older x

If stockings are something everyone still loves you could move to collaborative stockings- so everyone brings bits for everyone else's stockings. You have tons of people, so if everyone brings one wee thing for everyone else you will have very full stockings, and that could be it for presents!

Thanks messy that is a good idea.

It's just going to be a whole different story this year as it will just be me and DH Christmas Day for the first time ever!

The dog is going to get extra spoiling

I think it depends on two things, i. what you can comfortably afford, and ii. if you enjoy 'doing' Christmas presents.

My DC are both single this year, but previously I've bought a 'good' present for their other halves, although it's tended to be just the one item. For the DC themselves (and now for DH too!), I do a stocking and an assortment of presents. But I love Christmas, and enjoy spoiling them!

Enjoy your quiet Christmas OP!

i still do stockings for adult dcs and buy them presents. I also do a stocking now for dd2s fiance and buy him a small gift.
the dds (in their 20s) get stuff like perfume, scented candles, Baileys, earrings, books, pyjamas.
Me and my siblings are all in our fifties and mum still buys us presents.
I think more thought and care goes into buying for adult dds than the tons of plastic tat that young dcs get. it's much more enjoyable and the gifts very much appreciated.

Lots of good ideas here thank you everyone for your suggestions.

I love Christmas but DH is a humbug

I also thought of cinema vouchers that can be popped into a stocking as then the gf/bf also benefit as I've decided not to buy for them, apart from my DS2 gf as I see her the most and she's lovely.

I've worked out a budget and I'm going to stick to £400 for all adult children1 present and a stocking so should be a ok.