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Isolate or try to pass it on?

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belimoo · 17/12/2022 11:08

Last year I got Covid a couple of weeks before Christmas. Spent a week staying away from dp and was out of 10 day isolation just before Christmas. He then tested positive on Christmas Day, which ruined our plans.

Almost a year to the day later and I've just tested positive again and I am desperate for this not to stop us spending Christmas with family again.

So my options are, spend the next 9 days completely separate from dp and hope he doesn't get it. Realistically though, that's going to be tough as we live in a smallish flat and both wfh. Or do I actively try my best to give it to him now so that we're hopefully both over it and testing negative by Christmas? That's a stupid idea isn't it? I'm so fed up that this has happened at this exact time again Xmas Angry

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belimoo · 17/12/2022 12:09

Skiphopbump · 17/12/2022 12:01

There are five people in my house hold. Between us we’ve had covid at least 8 times, we never isolated from each other when positive and only once has one person knowingly passed it on to another.

I would carry on as normal.

Wow that's amazing. I don't understand how people catch it out in public but then don't pass it on to people they live with.

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AcerbicColleague · 17/12/2022 12:19

I would try not to pass it on because I would not want to be responsible for someone else getting very sick. It's likely he wouldn't but there are no guarantees.

It must be very disappointing and frustrating, but if you take your mind to the worst case scenario ie infecting your partner and making him extremely ill, I am sure you'd prefer the option of cancelled Christmas plans.

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belimoo · 17/12/2022 13:04

AcerbicColleague · 17/12/2022 12:19

I would try not to pass it on because I would not want to be responsible for someone else getting very sick. It's likely he wouldn't but there are no guarantees.

It must be very disappointing and frustrating, but if you take your mind to the worst case scenario ie infecting your partner and making him extremely ill, I am sure you'd prefer the option of cancelled Christmas plans.

Yes you're right, of course. Thanks all for making me see sense!

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milkysmum · 17/12/2022 13:12

I'm a single parent to two children ( age 11 and 13 ). We have never isolated from each other at all, and have all had covid several times. Only once have the DCs passed it on to each other, the other times nobody got I'll when the other had it. I would just get on with day to day life together and see what happens. The reality is you really cannot fully isolate from each other in a small flat anyway, so I wouldn't bother trying now.

tickticksnooze · 17/12/2022 14:11

belimoo · 17/12/2022 11:46

Hmm, if either of us had flu or TB then I don't think my parents would want us there. They probably wouldn't be keen on us taking a cold tbh, they're pretty keen to avoid illness for various reasons.

I do see your point but it's the fact that a mild infection for us could be serious for them given their age and I'd feel very guilty if we knowingly took it to their house.

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Of course, I was referring to your partner and your proposal to try and infect him, not vulnerable people.

You are trying to control the uncontrollable.

MichaelFabricantWig · 17/12/2022 18:13

I don’t think there’s any point in isolating from the people you live with. Plus the isolation is only 5 days now anyway. I can’t believe after nearly 3 years of this people would still be isolating for 10 days away from household members.

Nat6999 · 17/12/2022 18:42

My mum started on the day after she came out of hospital, I started the day after. I could only have caught it from her as I'm housebound.

DealOrNoelsDeal · 17/12/2022 18:44

Husband won’t clear it in time. Presuming it takes him 2-3 days to be infected. Will still have it by Xmas

notyourmam · 17/12/2022 19:04

The risk of developing Long Covid actually goes up with each infection. I couldn't knowingly expose anybody to that risk, however minor it seemed given their past response. (Statistically though the risk isn't actually that minor.)

But this is coming from someone who has had Long Covid for 2.5 years, so the risk seems more immediate to me than it will to most.

You really, truly, do not want to end up giving Long Covid to your husband though. Believe me!

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 17/12/2022 21:19

MichaelFabricantWig · 17/12/2022 18:13

I don’t think there’s any point in isolating from the people you live with. Plus the isolation is only 5 days now anyway. I can’t believe after nearly 3 years of this people would still be isolating for 10 days away from household members.

We've said from day one we'll just have to get on with it. We live in a one bedroom flat so it's impossible to isolate from each other. While I wouldn't deliberately try to infect DH I wouldn't be able to avoid him either.

Floralnomad · 17/12/2022 21:22

Surely it’s up to your partner , if he wants to risk it then carry on as usual .

WarriorN · 18/12/2022 06:36

In my experience we'd all infected each other before we knew we had it. (All had symptoms, last jan, youngest brought it into the house.) However second time round it was only me that had symptoms.

wondersun · 18/12/2022 06:48

What rubbish timing, especially
for the second time. If you’re parents really want to avoid it, I think Christmas is probably best delayed. I would talk to your parents obviously but knowing the don’t want to catch it wouldn’t go
unless you’ve both had two consecutive days negative LFT and have no symptoms. Then I’d sit next to an open window and HEPA. To be honest, I’d FPP2 mask when I could too. Not idea but such an effective way of stopping transmission so to me, worth it. Good luck!

liveforsummer · 18/12/2022 06:52

It's a bit late now to intentionally infect him and hope he'll be over it. With the incubation period he'll probably still be infectious on Xmas day with that time line. Best to hope he already had it or just be vaguely cautious and hope he doesn't get it. You found always go to your parents on your own for a couple of hours?

liveforsummer · 18/12/2022 06:56

Wow that's amazing. I don't understand how people catch it out in public but then don't pass it on to people they live with.

Dd slept in my bed when she had it, heavy breathing in my face and all sorts. I caught it a few weeks later when I spent the week at home alone while they were at their dads between xmas and new year (went to Tesco once and walked the dog outdoors)

Ocrumbs · 18/12/2022 06:58

Ask DP it has to be his call in case he ends up in hospital with it or long covid

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