He plans on socialising with Covid

[Skittleoo]

He would do anything for his special fucking interests.

He tested positive for covid on Friday. Me qnd the children are negative at the moment. I've taken care of the children solely all weekend up to this point so he can rest. Although I did ask him to vacuum the house and wash some clothes this morning as he seemed a bit better. I had to take both children to a family event this morning with my non-diagnosed autistic father and toxic brother. I am drained.

Just come home and he's announced that he's off to play golf- with covid!!

Leaving me to do the children's dinner, homework, baths and bedtimes alone after an already gruelling weekend of this horrible family commitment today and a day full of dance classes and horseriding lessons yesterday. I have a horrible headache and I'm done.

Is it unreasonable of me to expect him to contribute to family life this afternoon rather than go and play golf? Also although there is no rule or law in the UK preventing him from going to play golf with covid (he has symptoms), the government website advises him against it. He's now in a full on sulk with me after I told him he can't go and that I'm going upstairs for a lie down instead.

How can he have it both ways? Too poorly to contribute towards family life but not too poorly to play golf with friends (who apparently don't mind catching covid).

He is also going to a social event with friends on Tuesday evening- a meal indoors and I'm having to rearrange my work commitments to accommodate him, yet he isn't planning on going in work! I feel he's just taking the piss...

Am I being unreasonable here?

This doesn’t sound like a new problem, does he normally help out?

He usually does much of his share practically until his special interests take over. He's got a habit of ignoring illness- whether its me, him or the children if it poses a threat to what he wants to do.

There are two separate issues here. He doesn’t help out in the household. He’s playing golf after a positive COVID test. The latter is a non-issue. He’s an adult. He can go out if he feels unwell, the fresh air will do him good. It’s not like he’s going to a packed nightclub. Do you seriously need the government to tell you whether you can go out or not when you’re unwell? Do you look to the government for advice when you have a cold or an ear infection? Or do you, you know, behave like an adult and use your own judgement?

Not helping in the household is probably because you’ve allowed him to get away with that for too long. It’s the bed you’ve made so it’s the bed you have to sleep in. You’re making things hard work for yourself. Put your foot down.

I had this in the summer. DH had covid. None of us got it. His symptoms were nothing more than a light cold after one day of being poorly. He decided he needed to 'isolate' in our room. It got to the 5th day and after me doing everything for the kids and running ragged all week. I'm (almost) ashamed to say I stormed into our room and told him he was fcking taking the p*ss. Low and behold he felt much better... and went to the pub that evening. Fuming 😡

Exactly @paulhollywoodshairgel they get back to their social lives before getting back to family life!

Clearly some grown adults do need to be told what to do! Others need to know that an ear infection is an ear infection, a cold is a cold and sars is sars. As for family life, he's taking the mickey.

You dont have a Covid issue - you have a relationship issue.