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Covid positive at a party

57 replies

folly115 · 30/05/2022 22:11

We were at my auntie and uncles golden wedding party yesterday and I was chatting away to my cousin who I haven't seen for a couple of years - within the conversation he mentioned that him and his son both have covid and his wife had it last week and she is a hairdresser and still went to work. I was a bit shocked they were at the party to be honest. He said something about no one worries about it anymore - we do especially as we go on holiday at the end of the week.

I mentioned to my mum what my cousin said and she said I probably heard him wrong so she asked my auntie who was so blase about it and knew he had it and that everyone now just gets on with life and doesn't give it a second thought.

Am I right in thinking if you knowingly know you have covid it is selfish to mix with people?? Completely different if you are not aware because you aren't testing.

OP posts:
Grumpybutfunny · 30/05/2022 22:13

You are going to get a wide variety of opinions. Personally I still isolated but know loads who didn't.

Believeitornot · 30/05/2022 22:13

YANBU. I equate it with chicken pox or the flu not a cold as some ignorant idiots do.

I would stay away if I got it again <shudder>

dementedpixie · 30/05/2022 22:14

It was selfish of them to still go to a party with active covid.

nocoolnamesleft · 30/05/2022 22:16

Selfish as fuck.

grapewines · 30/05/2022 22:16

Yeah, if you know you've got it then stay away. YANBU.

AskingforaBaskin · 30/05/2022 22:20

I wouldn't go to a party with my own family but I would go to work, shops etc

Sswhinesthebest · 30/05/2022 22:20

nocoolnamesleft · 30/05/2022 22:16

Selfish as fuck.

Yup.

I’d have had to say something about jeopardising my holiday, at the very least.

40andlols · 30/05/2022 22:22

Why do people test if they're not going to isolate?

the hairdresser partner probably had to go to work or lose pay, so they're probably feeling overall they're mixing anyway so no point missing the party.

i'd personally not go but i wouldn't judge someone who did

853ax · 30/05/2022 22:28

Wow I'm surprised they tested & told you.
At this stage I think lots people not isolating but really didn't think they would tell people or even test.
Not nice thing to do, very selfish. feel there is quite a lot of COVID-19 going around now again.

ThatPosterIsSoRight · 30/05/2022 22:28

I know it’s everywhere but that doesn’t mean you purposely spread it. If I had a terrible cold, the flu or a sick bug I wouldn’t go, and certainly not spread it amongst older relatives.

Speaking as someone currently positive with covid…

SpeedofaSloth · 30/05/2022 22:33

YANBU. I wouldn't take D&V or a stinking cold to a party either, though, so not covid-specific as such.

Mariposista · 30/05/2022 23:04

I know that plenty of people are going to work and shop etc because they have to, and that is one topic that everyone needs to agree to disagree on. But announcing it proudly at a party - sounds a bit attention seeking. If you're not going to isolate, that's your right but why shout it from the rooftops?

Oceanus · 30/05/2022 23:27

"Selfish as fuck".

This!

BeenToldComputerSaysNo · 31/05/2022 03:07

I don't think you're allowed to mention the word selfish on covid boards now. Or at least not about selfish people.

SpringRainbow · 31/05/2022 05:46

It makes me wonder why they even bothered testing to be honest.

Lifeispassingby · 31/05/2022 05:50

there have always been those ppl who don’t care when they are ill about spreading it to others, those who don’t wait 48hrs after D&V etc and it’s no different with covid

User487216 · 31/05/2022 06:00

Most people wouldn't know as they don't test but I wouldn't go to a party if I felt ill

lassof · 31/05/2022 06:05

What a pointless waste of time testing.
And why then tell people as well?
All very odd.
I just get on with my life. Sometimes I feel ill, sometimes I don't. If I don't feel especially ill, I still go to work and socialise.
I wonder why people can't just go back to that. I don't even have hoarded stocks of tests I could take 'just to check'

ImplementingTheDennisSystem · 31/05/2022 06:34

I'd totally be at the party, but I'd keep the fact that I have covid to myself. It's bizarre to share that information with others!

toomuchlaundry · 31/05/2022 07:12

@ImplementingTheDennisSystem would you go to a party with other contagious illnesses too? At a Golden Wedding Anniversary party there are bound to be elderly, vulnerable people there.

I missed a significant milestone anniversary party due to still being in 48 hour period after D&V. I felt fine but no way was I risking the health of elderly relatives and their similarly aged friends

bloodyunicorns · 31/05/2022 07:35

AskingforaBaskin · 30/05/2022 22:20

I wouldn't go to a party with my own family but I would go to work, shops etc

What? So you're happy to risk infecting strangers, just not your family? Selfish.

Believeitornot · 31/05/2022 07:42

ImplementingTheDennisSystem · 31/05/2022 06:34

I'd totally be at the party, but I'd keep the fact that I have covid to myself. It's bizarre to share that information with others!

It’s bizarre to test for Covid, find out you’re positive then go and socialise.

if you didn’t care, then why test.

Roselilly36 · 31/05/2022 07:49

I agree it’s selfish, especially a golden wedding, when you know elderly people will be there. I agree with other PP why on earth did they bother to test, as it clearly has not bearing on their decision to attend the party. I hope you are ok OP and have a lovely holiday.

Thebeastofsleep · 31/05/2022 08:03

Why bother testing if they weren't going to change their behaviour as a result?

Work and the shops I kind of understand, employers are much less empathetic these days and lots of people can't afford to live on statutory sick pay. But unnecessary socialising? That's reckless and selfish.

ImplementingTheDennisSystem · 31/05/2022 08:05

*"It’s bizarre to test for Covid, find out you’re positive then go and socialise.

if you didn’t care, then why test."*

Sorry, to be clear, I wouldn't.

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