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Kids isolation and my mental health

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goingpearshaped · 20/02/2022 22:04

Dd has COVID again. That's three times in our house now. I know others have had it worse but each time has been a school holiday and I just feel so done. I have no resilience at all. We have been stuck in every school hol since sept due to sodding COVID ( missing her birthday in one and a big family birthday in another). I am trying to keep them going but dd is lonely and seeing her friends out and about this week in HT again, just as before. Selfishly I just can't take much more of this. I am hopeful we will get an early release on day 6 but am not confident. I really feel like I am so close to being signed off again ( was in summer after another three weeks of constant isolation between them and more homeschool). Not sleeping well, so low and just no resilience any more. I am wallowing but can't get out of this mess.

I don't even know what the point of this post is. Just feel rock bottom and have done for ages. This was the final straw I think. I know that others are in similar situations but that never seems to help.

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MakkaPakkas · 20/02/2022 22:19

Sorry to hear that. It's so shit.
Do you have a car? We took our DD out in the car when she was on a close contact isolation and it broke things up a bit. We went to some empty woods one day for a bit of fresh air and also to drive through McDonald's and both cheered her & us up.

Spudina · 20/02/2022 22:21

That sucks OP. This half term has been the worst. It’s pissed it down all week and I haven’t left the house with the kids. I just couldn’t be arsed. Nicer days are just around the corner. The government is about the scrap all Covid isolating. (Don’t actually agree with that but that’s the way it’s gonna be) Hang in there. Better times are coming. In the mean time let the kids have plenty of screens and keep in touch with their friends. Treat yourself to something good (trashy book or favourite film with huge slab of chocolate) Make some plans for later in the year to give yourself to look forward to. And go easy on yourself.

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goingpearshaped · 20/02/2022 22:26

Thank you, I appreciate it. Sometimes hearing others say it is crap is helpful. Sounds stupid but others have told me it's not so bad ( whilst never having to do this) and I have just had to not respond. Have even deleted WhatsApp ATM as not helping me.

Thanks again, you are kind @Spudina and @MakkaPakkas. Yes, have a car. DD does have it again ( 2nd jab die next day, you could not make it up). Was tempted re drive through etc.

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goingpearshaped · 20/02/2022 22:26

Due.....

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Usernumber5253747293 · 21/02/2022 06:14

Op, that totally sucks and I can relate. Covid has hit our house twice since December - we all had it before Christmas time then Dd caught it again a few weeks ago. Ds now has a cough. I don't think it's covid but I guess I'll have to test him but it's traumatic for him, he's autistic and I have to pin him down. It's half term here too! I'm sick of testing, I'm sick or covid, I'm sick of isolation too. Like I said I have no advice, I feel the same. But hope for negative tests on day 5&6 for you 🤞

If you live in a quiet area, I would consider going for a walk. Or finding somewhere to have a run about if you can drive somewhere. Isolation will be ending soon anyway. The risk of passing it on this way is tiny. Get some fresh air!!

Don't limit screen time for the kids. Try and take care of yourself.

My MH is in tatters too. I'm not worried about the illness, we've had it and mild. I'm more anxious and the testing and the isolation period, loss of earnings etc. Totally sucks!

Emsmaman · 21/02/2022 06:34

I feel for you. DD had it for the third time in January. Our half term holidays were cancelled due to another family member having it. I've lost track of cancelled trips, events and birthdays due to the sodding virus. Its hard to be motivated to plan or look forward to anything. Fingers crossed for early release, my dd was negative by day 5 so it can happen.

Lushmetender · 21/02/2022 19:09

Yes misery loves company! My 3 kids had covid in sept at different times and meant they missed 3 weeks of school and clubs. Dd aged 9 has had 6 viral infections- this most recently caught by going to a friends for the first time
In 2 years.
Was thinking how wonderful and normal it felt being out for dinner only to find out on the Tuesday while on holiday they all had covid! My daughter started with symptoms on Wednesday so it was like here we go!!! All is us testing negative so far but kids can’t go to their clubs again due to the clubs rules! My dd is due to sing in a choir of which I’ve paid an arm and a leg for the concert so have arms and legs crossed no one else catches it. My dad was with us and he’s vulnerable with terminal cancer so it’s been crap! Feel I’m just existing and not able to plan or do anything which translates to not getting out even just for a walk! I think we are all sick and must agree we need to learn to live with Covid.

Covidpositive19 · 22/02/2022 17:30

I completely sympathise OP, I've been stuck in the house for over a week and a half now after DC tested positive, and then me a week later.

As PP said at least the legal requirement is ending now. I have mixed feelings about it as I would never want to infect anyone, but like you it's not the virus that worries me, it's the isolation. And I worry more about passing it on and inconveniencing someone else, making them have to isolate and maybe lose earnings, rather than actually passing it on and harming them because they'll be ill. Which I think goes to show that the requirement to isolate does need to end.

thewhatsit · 22/02/2022 17:36

Since the requirement to test and isolate is ending within days I would seriously just go out for a walk. There is no risk in you going for an isolated walk in some woods or down a few roads you know to not be busy. We are going to be asked to take personal responsibility and going for a walk somewhere secluded is just that.

Comedycook · 22/02/2022 17:39

I completely understand. My Ds is off school and back to home learning because of storm damage to his school. It has really triggered me and makes me feel like it's lockdown again.

megletthesecond · 22/02/2022 17:41

Just go for a walk Flowers. Outdoor transmission is so unlikely.

TheKeatingFive · 22/02/2022 17:59

Another 'just go for a walk' here

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goingpearshaped · 22/02/2022 18:05

Thanks all and sorry others have been affected. DH tested positive today. His work are dicks and won't pay him but don't want him in after Thursday (can't work from home in his role). We will see what they say. They can't say do the right thing and not pay him IMO.

DD is doing better and we are off out tomorrow (she was neg yest and is today). Just fingers crossed I don't get it so I can take her out!

Agree re the isolation. Part of me wishes we had not tested as we would not have know DH had it. But like you @Covidpositive19, I don't want to make others isolate or be without money because their employer is also a complete arse. It's more that than worry aout Covid.

It is relentless though and the cancellation of plans is so hard. Reinstigated the sleepover for DD9 for the third time today as other DD is now neg and then DH tested so can't host it here Legally I could no Thurs of course but that is crappy IMO.

Solidarity all.

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