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Feeling guilty over getting Covid and passing it on

18 replies

Buffy81 · 12/02/2022 18:54

Has anybody else felt like this?

I felt ill on Sunday, did a LFT on Monday as work were asking everyone o do them for 5 days due to an out brake and I tested positive.

My DH then had to do school and nursery run n our DS after making sure we did an LFT to show if they asked. (He was going to be an hr late every day this week) On Thursday he then tested positive and as he is self employed he wont get any wages and no help from the government either as he tried when we first went into lockdown
So we are going to lose at least a weeks wages maybe more depending on when he has 2 negative LFTs

Yesterday (Friday) our 3yr old tested positive as been testing him every other day due to going to nursery. Our 7yr old we have been testing every day to go to go school, but for the last 2 days he has not been able to go as we dont have anybody close by to take him to school, we have had to keep him off which is bound to up his risk of getting it

We slept separately until DH tested positive, sat as far away as we can in the sitting room as its large enough for us to do so for an hr when he has got home from work while he has been doing the dinner so I can keep the kids away or he has been in his "office" aka the playroom

I have been cleaning all the hot points door handles/light switches etc

Has anybody else ever felt guilty even though you have done everything you know you can

Please no bashing as I feel bad enough as it is already

OP posts:
Waxonwaxoff0 · 12/02/2022 19:22

No. A virus does what a virus does. I don't have control over it.

Whatwouldscullydo · 12/02/2022 19:27

You cant even be sure he caught it from you. He could have caught it from work/school run. The shop etc

This whole blaming thing is pointless tbh. You are infectious before you even know you jave it amd you can spread it after a false negative test so you didn't know u had it.

It just happens.

tothemoonandbackbuses · 12/02/2022 19:27

It’s a reallly contagious virus, it’s not your fault at all

treeflowercat · 12/02/2022 20:19

Your guilt really isn't rational. How is this your fault? This virus has infected hundreds of millions, probably into the billions. As many people have had it as not in the U.K.!

HesterShaw1 · 12/02/2022 20:52

Why would anyone "bash" you for getting an incredibly contagious virus? You're overthinking this.

ShallWeTalkAboutBruno · 12/02/2022 20:55

No I don’t feel guilty for catching a highly transmissible virus, and I do not feel guilty for potentially passing it on when I didn’t know I had it.
Have you ever felt guilty for catching a cold? Any other virus?

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Buffy81 · 12/02/2022 22:07

I think it comes down to that fact that like a lot of self employed people didn't get any help and also what i forgot to say in my original OP was that my colleague at work has had to come in on her week off as there is only 2 of that do that job and it cant be done from home.

yeah I know, your right I don't have anything to feel guilty about, just feeling a bit emotional and need some one to tell me I never feel bad about having a cold as I get them all them time

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Zolla · 13/02/2022 07:58

A virus will virus 🤷🏼‍♀️

Pre-covid, I once gave my immunosupressed mum a really nasty cold that turned to sepsis & landed her in hospital for a couple weeks. I felt awful but she told me to give my head a wobble and stop feeling bad as she could have got a cold from anywhere, she was working in a public facing job, going about life as normal in shops, restaurants, the cinema, seeing friends.. same applies to covid!

LyricalBlowToTheJaw · 13/02/2022 08:43

It's an extremely contagious virus doing what extremely contagious viruses do. There's nothing to feel guilt about. Are you ok? I know a lot of people have really struggled with anxiety and the like during all this.

DoraSpenlow · 13/02/2022 09:58

I understand where you are coming from OP.

A few years ago, pre-covid, a much loved family member came to us for Christmas. I started feeling ill on the journey to take them home and ended up with a horrible flu. A week later they were in hospital and it turned to pneumonia. They recovered but were never the same and they died in the March.

Yes, I know I couldn't have known I would be ill while they were with us and a virus is going to virus, but the feeling of guilt that I gave them something that caused their demise has never gone away.

No bashing here. I just know how you feel.

Proudplantowner · 13/02/2022 13:34

I understand. I tested positive on a PCR yesterday and only just today on a LFT. I felt poorly since Monday (muscle aches, tired) but got negative LFTs. My boss is a nightmare about covid and doesn't understand it so I've just been going into work. I've almost certainly passed it onto people. Having said that most people at work have had it in the last couple of weeks so hopefully not.
Hope you feel better soon OP.

salty78 · 13/02/2022 13:49

I feel a bit guilty about the fact I was out and about before I knew I was positive and might have spread it unwittingly but then again, it is now just a matter of time before everyone gets it unfortunately. It's a very contagious virus which we have a vaccine for and which thankfully seems to be mutating to milder versions as time passes.

Original poster
Buffy81 · 14/02/2022 11:13

Glad that I am not the only one to feel guilty then as I have had to make sure that my parents and in-laws are testing themselves as we saw them the day before I tested positive

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TheKeatingFive · 14/02/2022 11:41

No. A virus does what a virus does. I don't have control over it.

This. It's ridiculous to think we have agency over covid. OP please don't feel bad, you aren't responsible for how viruses work.

Blubells · 14/02/2022 11:43

It's an extremely contagious virus doing what extremely contagious viruses do. There's nothing to feel guilt about. Are you ok?

This.

Stuffin · 14/02/2022 12:40

Do you blame other people for contracting a virus?

Do you think if you have followed all the rules you can't contract covid?

The answer to those should be no in my opinion and therefore no you shouldn't feel guilty.

Change123today · 14/02/2022 12:47

It is what it is.

The only bug I felt guilty about was the sick bug virus - that went through the house & we all really suffered!!!

But then again I don’t live near parents /grandparents & sadly we haven’t seen much of them the last few years because of covid. When we have caught up very much outside visits and no close contact! I then realised that they haven’t stopped their lives - going to gym classes/cinema/meals out with friends etc They’ve accepted the ‘risk’ so I probably wouldn’t feel as guilty!

MangyInseam · 14/02/2022 14:43

It's natural to feel badly but at the same time, covid is everywhere and highly infectious. People pass it on in workplaces where they test daily.

The problem of giving it to people who can't afford to take time of work is upsetting too. That problem is largely down to isolation rules.

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