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If you have an eligible DS, what did you decide re vaccination?

114 replies

Nilbog · 08/02/2022 17:04

I’m still on the fence and would like to hear from people who have decided either way for their son.

I’m specifically asking about boys because of the myocarditis risk.

My DS is 14 and I’m not sure. I had all my jabs without a second thought but it feels different for DS somehow.

He had Covid (very mildly) back in 2020 and nothing since.

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Nilbog · 08/02/2022 19:14

Thank @Comedycook. I really am in two minds. I can certainly appreciate your point of view.

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MargaretThursday · 08/02/2022 19:14

Ds is 14yo. He's just had his second jab.

Nilbog · 08/02/2022 19:16

Thanks @megletthesecond, a few other posters have mentioned there is a higher risk of myocarditis from Covid that the jab.

I may have misunderstood what the JCVI reported or I’m out of date.

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TabithaTittlemouse · 08/02/2022 19:16

[quote Nilbog]@TabithaTittlemouse did you have any concerns about myocarditis or is the risk different as your DS is slightly younger?[/quote]
He’s 16. We decided that the risk was greater from covid rather than the vaccination. I’m really proud of him for weighing up the pros and cons. He researched as much as he could before having it and was able to discuss his decision with us.

Nilbog · 08/02/2022 19:18

I’ve convinced myself that DS won’t get Covid again @rainrainraincamedowndowndown.

His experience of it was mild and the more recent variants seem to be less severe.

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Nilbog · 08/02/2022 19:19

I hope the vaccine protects your DS @Sirzy

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Nilbog · 08/02/2022 19:23

Apologies @TabithaTittlemouse, my mistake.

It’s great to hear the examples of our young people weighing up benefits and drawbacks.

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Nilbog · 08/02/2022 19:26

@RoyKentsChestHair the different decisions in your family are interesting.

What was the reason you were again the jab for your DS17?

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Nilbog · 08/02/2022 19:26

Did your DS experience any side effects from the jab @MargaretThursday?

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MargaretThursday · 08/02/2022 19:33

@Nilbog
DS Always reacts to jabs. Every time he's had them he gets a high temperature at the very least.
The reaction to both covid jabs has been less than most, including the flu one.

He thinks it's great because he gets time off school.

He had the second yesterday, woke up to a mild temperature. Has been basically not too bad until this evening when his temperature has come up a point or two and he's a bit shivery cold now. He'll probably be fine tomorrow.

In contrast the last flu jab he had, his temperature didn't come below 38.5 for 4-5 days.

He's also got a history of being really ill with generally mild illnesses, and about 5 years ago had a year of post viral fatigue, so potentially could take covid badly.

Blubells · 08/02/2022 19:42

My ds had covid recently and is unvaccinated. He had a couple of days with a stuffy nose and light headache. That's it.

The myocarditis risk of the vaccine worries me too.

lljkk · 08/02/2022 19:58

DS is 14 soon -- got 1 jab, will get another. It's just too very inconvenient to not get jabs (travel).

Remmy123 · 08/02/2022 20:01

No not vaccinating my teen - I do not see the benefit and long term issues of the vaccine are not known.

TheBayside · 08/02/2022 20:07

The way I see it, by getting vaccinated you are lowering the risk of catching covid. So you are actually reducing the myocarditis risk. And the long covid risk. And the risk of missing school / exams due to covid. And the risk of being very ill with covid.

RoyKentsChestHair · 08/02/2022 20:09

[quote Nilbog]@RoyKentsChestHair the different decisions in your family are interesting.

What was the reason you were again the jab for your DS17?[/quote]
Mainly that the jab doesn’t stop you getting it or spreading it, and that the benefit to some people of it “potentially making symptoms less severe and less long lasting” is so woolly that it doesn’t feel worthy of a potential bad reaction for a small/insignificant gain for him.

We don’t have any family, so no older relatives to consider here, of course he’s at school, but not in close contact with anyone vulnerable, so I just don’t feel that he needs the vaccine, especially as Omicron is apparently pretty mild and that the virus will naturally evolve over time needing more boosters etc despite getting milder.

I’ve had covid and it’s shit. But tbh it was no worse than any other horrid flu/virus I’ve had. I had glandular fever as a teen and that wiped me out for months, just like long covid I guess. I also have a long term health condition which I treat myself because the NHS have let me down pretty badly over the years, so no I don’t always believe they have our best interests at heart. Decisions are fuelled by finances and big picture thinking even though they may not be right for you individually.

I’m not anti vax - they’ve all had their childhood immunisations. But they were done for them not just to keep unspecified strangers safe.

If there had been as many reports of bad side effects from the childhood jabs as for these I would have reconsidered those too. In fact I read as much as I could about it at the time (with all the controversy around ASD/MMR) and made an informed decision to go ahead, I didn’t just blindly do as I was told. I know of two people local to me who had brain haemorrhages shortly after taking their first covid vaccine, one of whom died. Yes. Could be coincidence, but it’s not a chance I’m taking with my children’s health and after the heart scare with my eldest I was very worried about either of them having it tbh. Obvs I couldn’t stop him, but I’m glad DS2 didn’t go ahead with it.

As far as I’m concerned nobody should be coerced into any medical treatment they don’t really want. Using the withholding of travel opportunities and attending social events to blackmail people into medical decisions is abhorrent, and has pushed me further away from wanting to get them jabbed rather than convincing me. And as a parent I should be able to guide my DCs to make the right choice for themselves not for the ‘greater good’. Would any of you really be ok if your child ended up with a heart condition from the vaccine because it meant that someone else got to visit their grandma?

Hoppinggreen · 08/02/2022 20:11

13 year old DS has had both

Wintersun · 08/02/2022 20:25

Teen Ds not vaccinated as they had covid and it was very mild for them so decided the risk wasn’t worth it.

BooksAndHooks · 08/02/2022 20:42

@Nilbog

Interesting to read your experience *@BooksAndHooks*. Was there specific information about changes in heartbeat?
I’m not sure of exact wording now as it was a few months ago, but any pain, or anything not feeling right in chest. They were told to avoid sports and make sure they drank extra water for the next 72hrs.
TomAllenWife · 08/02/2022 20:56

DS 17 and DS 12 both fully jabbed

There's no history of myocarditis in our family, I wanted them protected against covid and also protect their grandparents and people more vulnerable than they are at 17 & 12

If 12 year old gets offered booster he'll be having that too

maddy68 · 08/02/2022 21:03

I'm a teacher (not in the UK). All bar two kids in my yr 7- 11 classes are fully vaccinated. Noone has had any complications

Nilbog · 08/02/2022 21:22

I can see how you decided to go for the vaccine for your DS @MargaretThursday. Hope he stays well.

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Nilbog · 08/02/2022 21:25

@Blubells in general people seem to be experiencing mild symptoms or none at all which makes me think the risk of catching Covid and serious side effects are slim.

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Nilbog · 08/02/2022 21:26

@lljkk agreed, the travel aspect is a PITA.

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Nandocushion · 08/02/2022 21:28

DS 14 has had both and is going for his booster today (not in UK). Even if I hadn't wanted him to have it - and I did - he would have gone for it anyway, and here he's able to give consent without me having a say in it. Minuscule chance of issues from vaccine, much higher (though still small) risks from the virus.

Nilbog · 08/02/2022 21:29

As we can see in this thread, everyone is in a similar but slightly different situation and each of us has to do the right thing for our respective DC @Remmy123.

I’m still not sure what is best for us.

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