Partner with covid, newborn at home

[Pisces666]

Hi everyone (my first post on here)
Looking for advice.
My partner tested positive for COVID 5 days ago. Tested himself this morning- still positive.
So far I have managed to stay infection free , I have also managed to keep out 3 months old baby infection free ! I’m basically single mum now. Partner sleeps in different room and I do ALL childcare . He held the baby maybe twice since beginning of illness.
I’m wondering how long do I have to wait to allow more contact ? Do I have to wait till his test is negative? Not gonna lie , he treats it as a holiday and not complaining at all while I’m trying to do it all 24/7. Has anyone been in the same situation ?
I just don’t want to catch damn thing. I won’t be able to relax all day long like he does if I fall ill - I know it for sure .

He needs to isolate until he either tests negative for 2 consecutive days or his isolation period is over.

Max of another five days. Sorry but I don't think you will get much sympathy describing yourself as a single mum. You can cope for a short period. He is presumably still there in an emergency, unless he does little with baby anyway.

You are not a single mum

When you go out for a walk he can clean the whole house, do the laundry do some batch cookiny. And they just keep windows open for 10 mins before you get back.

We were in the same sit last week albeit our DS is a toddler. DH isolated himself for four days but then I tested positive so it seemed pointless for it to continue. While he was isolating, he came out while DS and I were elsewhere and tidied up etc. We kept all the windows open. Obviously it didn't work but he also caught it on Thurs and didn't test positive until Sunday so there was plenty of opportunity for him to pass it on to me before he started isolating.

When you go out for a walk he can clean the whole house, do the laundry do some batch cookiny. And they just keep windows open for 10 mins before you get back.

Doesn’t that rather depend on how I’ll he is? My husband couldn’t even stand up, never mind laundry batch cooking.

ill, not I’ll.

Yes of course @Zazdar. But the OP saying he was treating it like a holiday made it sound (to me) as if he's alright. Sorry your husband was sick.

I am sorry I didn’t mean to offend anyone describing myself as a single mum . I know i. I am not although it does feel like it a lot but that’s a convo for different thread. So before I make anybody more angry : sorry again!

@Yuckypretty @Zazdar indeed he has no symptoms . One day a bit flu like . He’s havin a blast in his room , computer, tv etc : that’s why I described it as holiday

He sounds like a waste of space OP. When people show you who they are, believe them.

I sympathise with you, looking after a baby and probably your DH as well must be hard. Hopefully, a few more days and he will be able to do his share of looking after you and baby.

Did you ask him to isolate or was it his suggestion? If you asked him to then it’s understandable that he’s going to be having a holiday in the space room, as there’s nothing else to do.
How do you know your baby hasn’t got it? Are people testing babies?

We all have it currently, including, I think anyway our three month old. Baby has a snotty nose and is a bit more in need of cuddles and sleep than usual, but nothing worrying. The rest of us just have a cold really. I wouldn't worry too much, I don't know anyone that is in generally good health that has had a bad dose recently. Tell him he needs to pitch in.

Thank you for supportive messages everyone!
I am testing myself and a baby everyday . It’s not as bad as it sounds . I’ve got free tests picked up from local testing centre- you just put swab stick up your nose - with a tiny baby just a little bit in : it’s doesn’t even have be 1cm or whatever they say . My baby doesn’t mind at all . I think it’s worth testing for the peace of mind !
I’m just mystified of how me and babe didn’t get it and he did

My husband didn’t catch it even when he
slept in bed with me and continued looking after our son while we both had it, strange considering how contagious it’s said to be

When I had it neither of my children got it ( no isolating from them as I am a single parent ). Another time one child got it and the other didn't, and vice verca. My sister had it and her 4 year old didn't catch it ( again no isolating from each other as she's a single parent ).

Sounds promising. I guess I will just re-assume my bf responsibilities since it’s a bit of a pisstake I think I was mostly worried that I catch it from him , then have it bad and everything will turn into chaos and traumatised unsettled baby. I just can’t imagine him coping

I meant can’t imagine bf coping with baby and housework . Please don’t judge my poor life choices when it comes to men

If I were in your position I'd do the same as you, we all have it at the moment (caught from 3 year old) and not been at all concerned for my 3 year old but would have wanted to protect a 3 month old. At that stage my partner wouldn't have coped well with looking after baby solo either. Something to work out once he is out of isolation!