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Can I complain?

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CovidHusband · 04/02/2022 19:00

NC for this.

Brief backstory, DH works in a public facing job, I wfh. 3dc all in school. DH had a "cold" which started at the weekend, I asked him to test and he said he'd done one at work and was negative. Dc3 also same symptoms, but was staying at their mums and she said they tested negative.

Fast forward to yesterday and I started feeling a bit off, test was negative. Still felt a bit rubbish today so test again, positive. Rang DH at work and he test positive on two different tests, although fainter lines. Took himself for a PCR "to make sure".

DH thinks he is immune to covid, and convinced that although logically he's most likely had it all week and that's why his tests are faint, that actually it's "a mistake".

Now to my question. When he went for his PCR, he told "the lad" at the test centre his tests were faint and that he'd had a cold and apparently this person told him that his tests are most likely wrong, and that they've picked up his cold.

Off the back of this misinformation, he's now taken the dc to his parents. Presumably as he thinks I'm the only one in the house who actually has covid.

Aibu to want to complain about what this person has said to him? Govt guidance at the moment states a positive LFT indicates covid and you must isolate etc. Because he's somewhat of a covid denier he's taken this person as gospel and is now possibly spreading covid to his elderly parents! I'm fuming!

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Tonkerbea · 04/02/2022 19:06

I'm finding it hard to believe the person at the test centre would say something so ridiculous!

LIZS · 04/02/2022 19:11

@Tonkerbea

I'm finding it hard to believe the person at the test centre would say something so ridiculous!
Agree, unless a fellow test patient.
Theunamedcat · 04/02/2022 19:13

My ex husband works at a test centre he is a covid denier and has only bothered with one vaccine as its just "a cold" obviously he doesn't tell his bosses this and toes the party line but he absolutely woukd say this to someone if he was on his own

CorrBlimeyGG · 04/02/2022 19:14

Your husband is using a fictional conversation to justify being a dickhead.

Tonkerbea · 04/02/2022 19:14

Oh, and you need to be cross at your Covid denying DH, not this "lad"!

daisyjgrey · 04/02/2022 19:17

@Theunamedcat

My ex husband works at a test centre he is a covid denier and has only bothered with one vaccine as its just "a cold" obviously he doesn't tell his bosses this and toes the party line but he absolutely woukd say this to someone if he was on his own

Why would a covid denier have any vaccine at all for it 🧐

TooOldandTired · 04/02/2022 19:17

Yeah make a complaint to your idiot husband. I don't think a complaint about a most likely made up conversation he had will go anywhere.

LutherRalph1 · 04/02/2022 19:18

I would imagine your husband is lying about the work test and the conversation

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CovidHusband · 04/02/2022 19:25

I also think he's lying. We had a massive argument about it because I think he lied about doing a test at the weekend as well but he is adamant. I have told him point blank I think he's lying about it.

Maybe complain is a strong word, I just want to make sure that if he is saying things like this to people that he has some more training! I don't want him sacked or anything like that!

I've been for several PCR tests and people have barely conversed with me, let alone say something so ridiculous!

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CovidHusband · 04/02/2022 19:27

@Tonkerbea

Oh, and you need to be cross at your Covid denying DH, not this "lad"!
I am very much cross at him, as I said in my op I'm absolutely fuming.

Just if this conversation happened I need to make sure it doesn't happen again.

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Dinoboymama · 04/02/2022 19:37

If he is positive on a lfd test he legally needs to isolate. He didn't need a pcr test after being positive on one.

WonderfulYou · 04/02/2022 19:50

Your husband is using a fictional conversation to justify being a dickhead.

I agree.

The guy wouldn’t say this as there are other people around and he could lose his job.

I had a faint line and then 2 days later the line was very dark.

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CovidHusband · 04/02/2022 19:51

@Dinoboymama

If he is positive on a lfd test he legally needs to isolate. He didn't need a pcr test after being positive on one.
I'm well aware of this, but he doesn't believe it's a true positive and I can't force him not to leave the house. I'm just hoping his parents don't get it.

I'm isolating obviously. I'm hoping his PCR is positive so I can confirm what a dickhead he is but I think he's probably day 6/7.

I'm not really poorly but this has reduced me to tears of annoyance and frustration.

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WonderfulYou · 04/02/2022 19:52

He’s also very selfish going to his elderly parents if there’s even a tiny possibility he could be positive.

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CovidHusband · 04/02/2022 19:53

@WonderfulYou

Your husband is using a fictional conversation to justify being a dickhead.

I agree.

The guy wouldn’t say this as there are other people around and he could lose his job.

I had a faint line and then 2 days later the line was very dark.

I've done 2 different tests (2 different manufacturers) one is dark as anything the other is much more faint but I'm 100% sure I've got covid!
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Whitefire · 04/02/2022 20:44

I've never been able to have a conversation at the test center. Windows up with hand gestures and very brief instructions. So this conversation is unlikely to have happened.

PAFMO · 04/02/2022 20:46

@CorrBlimeyGG

Your husband is using a fictional conversation to justify being a dickhead.
Sums it up perfectly.
fairgame84 · 04/02/2022 20:48

I agree with @Whitefire. I've had a few pcrs at the drive thrush and never been able to have a conversation with the test centre people. They just shout instructions through the window.

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CovidHusband · 04/02/2022 21:02

We have a walk in centre 5 mins away but as I said upthread, I've been several times and never had a conversation with anyone. Let alone them tell me that my positive LFT is "probably a cold showing up"

He's not known for lying. But I think he's lying. I actually don't know what to do

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TheChip · 04/02/2022 21:13

Well there isn't really anything you can do. If his parents are fully vaccinated then hopefully they do a good enough job to keep them protected.

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CovidHusband · 04/02/2022 22:01

@TheChip they are fully vax, I'm just worried about them.

I can't get over his stupidity and whether someone said that at the test centre or not, it's pissed me off beyond the pale that he's being so cavalier with the whole thing.

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TheChip · 04/02/2022 22:10

Understandable. Its quite careless of him, but at the same time there is so much talk of isolation and testing being scrapped in places. I can see the amount of people switching off from it all increasing over the next few months. He's probably just a few steps ahead.
Fingers crossed all remains well with your in laws.

MichelleScarn · 04/02/2022 22:13

@CorrBlimeyGG

Your husband is using a fictional conversation to justify being a dickhead.
Yep! Like fuck would someone say that!
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CovidHusband · 04/02/2022 22:20

@TheChip

Understandable. Its quite careless of him, but at the same time there is so much talk of isolation and testing being scrapped in places. I can see the amount of people switching off from it all increasing over the next few months. He's probably just a few steps ahead. Fingers crossed all remains well with your in laws.
I am not a "covider". I'll still be working because I feel fine but obv I wfh. If rules said I didn't have to isolate I wouldn't.

I think it's the lies. And pure insistence that he doesn't have covid.

If he'd have said look, I feel fine, I'm not going to work because it's the law but I'll wear a mask to the shops etc...Ok.

But he's took the dc to his parents, knowing he's got covid but denying it, and making out I'm some sort of leper.

If someone has added fuel to that fire then they need to stop talking shit to people getting tested.

I'm all for removal of restrictions, but as it stands thems the rules.

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Billandben444 · 05/02/2022 08:23

Your husband is lying. He is, however, an adult liar and they are his parents so personally I'd chill out a bit and take care of myself 💐

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