Positive Ds. At his fathers. What would you do

[oldermam]

Youngest two boys have been at their fathers since Friday. (15 and 11) the 11yr was positive this morning and 15yo negative,

15 year old has gone off to school and is due to come home to me later on today.

Their father isn't vaccinated at all, due to his laziness. Ex mil lives there too, she is fully vaccinated and has mild asthma and Alzheimer's, there house is very small.

In my household there is me and OH (fully vaccinated) my eldest son (20) his girlf. Both fully vaccinated and the 20yr old baby (18 months old)

My mum has a very strong opinion and is piling on the guilt that I should get my youngest home today. But then this means all four of us at my home will
Need to lft daily, I'm due back at work next week, (nicu nurse) oh works at sea and is due back in the next 2/3 weeks. Eldest son works daily,,

What would you do?

I am going to drop of a care package and some of his fave things to his fathers doorstep later

I plan to test 15yr old daily and if he does end up testing positive I'll get youngest home, but 15 yo would be pretty must testing daily anyway for school,

(I'm in wales and rules differ slightly here)

I'd keep him at his dad's for 5 days then have him home after that

I'd personally leave him at his dad's for his isolation, especially considering your job.

I'd let him decide where he wants to be.

That's really difficult. I'd ignore the health of the people aged between 1 and 70 years old, but you're balancing your exMIL's serious vulnerability against your ability to do your important job and the risk that you'd infect tiny babies and postpartum women before you tested positive. I see why you've made the choice you have, but it seems a bit brutal to leave ExMIL in danger especially since DS2 has very likely brought it to your home already anyway.

Are there any other relatives DS3 can stay with?

@OperationRinka

That's really difficult. I'd ignore the health of the people aged between 1 and 70 years old, but you're balancing your exMIL's serious vulnerability against your ability to do your important job and the risk that you'd infect tiny babies and postpartum women before you tested positive. I see why you've made the choice you have, but it seems a bit brutal to leave ExMIL in danger especially since DS2 has very likely brought it to your home already anyway.

Are there any other relatives DS3 can stay with?

There isn't. I've offered for ex mil to come to my house but they've declined.

A difficult decision, but positive people are supposed to isolate in one place and not go out unless for a medical appointment, so really should stay where he is.