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Sharing shit 2020 birthdays

93 replies

Cluelessat32 · 26/01/2022 20:20

In the spirit of the times, let share our shitty 2020 birthdays. Just for the fun of it.

On my birthday in 2020 I was with my sister after leaving my abusive husband. However I suppose I had a nice cake.

OP posts:
HesterShaw1 · 26/01/2022 23:05

@QuestionsorComments

It was my 50th. We had almost a whole year of great things planned from a holiday with adult DC, through a weekend away with friends, lessons for a new skill and a party and I never usually plan anything for my birthday. All cancelled, then DH got cancer and died.

Do I win? Grin

Fair play, yours was worse. I'm so sorry 💐
Cherryblossomtree99 · 26/01/2022 23:06

It was my 40th in May 2020. I wasn't too arsed about it TBH. I got a domino's. DH ordered my a load of new clothes and I spent most of the evening on the phone to my family.

I was more upset for DS2. DS1 birthday was the Monday when Bojo made his first announcement telling the vulnerable to isolate. So he just managed to get his party. DS2 was six weeks later and I spent that six weeks panicking about being able to get him any presents. Thankfully we got him what has proven to be the best present ever.

What annoys me most though is that we had all that worry and panic while Bojo just carried on as normal. My Dsis died in 2020. I remember in May having a conversation when she said she was afraid she would never see me again. Thankfully we did see each other before she died. But I had all of that around my birthday while the government just had a piss up for 100 people. Angry

MrsSkylerWhite · 26/01/2022 23:07

April, 2020?
Think my CEV husband and I were probably eating beans and revising our wills.

NotMyDayJob · 26/01/2022 23:31

Very early 2020, so before we really knew about Covid. Also my 40th. Unfortunately it wasn't a great pre covid birthday, I miscarried the week before my birthday and after failed medical management had a d&c two days after my birthday. So yeah, it was the worst birthday ever and a global worldwide pandemic wasn't actually the worst thing to happen to me in 2020.

MaybeHeIsMyCat · 27/01/2022 00:31

Lockdown was announced on my birthday. Excellent Grin
I had already been at home for a week due to an email being sent out about vulnerable colleagues

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 27/01/2022 00:39

Mine is the end of February so things were starting to feel a bit twitchy - I had seen people wearing masks in shops which was, then, really weird. My DP had just been made redundant and spent all of 2020 out of work. We went for a nice lunch and then had Colin Caterpillar cake at home. I was so worried about money and him finding another job I felt sick. We managed though (and now he has a great job!).

DP is June, and we had Colin cake again, in the garden, with his mum and brother - all of us sitting far too far away from the table to stay within the rules. It was pretty cold and very windy, so he couldn’t blow out the candles.

What an absolute nonsense.

heartladder · 27/01/2022 00:54

May 2020, we treated 2 yo DD to an M&S picnic in our local church gardens, just me, DD and DH. No friends or family but she brought a few toys to sit on the picnic rug with us and we put up a little banner. Couldn't even take her to a playground as they were all locked up.

May 2021, DD's 3rd birthday, another picnic but we could at least meet up outside with some cousins and go inside the playground. It rained though and the wind blew our candles out and the helium balloons away.

cocktailclub · 27/01/2022 01:29

It was a good friend's 50th. Her father had passed away from COVID days before. We broke the rules to meet in the evening to give her a present, outdoors gathered around her village postbox. We took cupcakes (individual servings so no sharing) I was looking out for the police and was freezing cold and on edge. She was so grateful we had made the effort and said it made her birthday special. Which shows just how sh*t things were.

CarrieBlue · 27/01/2022 04:43

End of May 2020, DH’s birthday, we made him a cake from a box as flour was impossible to get hold of, and we had a takeaway meal from a restaurant that had diversified as they couldn’t open properly. I remember being terrified going to fetch it. DS and DD didn’t have much of a celebration for their birthdays at the end of the year as infections were ramping up again then as restrictions had been lifted.

Monkeytennis97 · 27/01/2022 05:24

DS' 21st birthday. Literally did nothing. DM's 70th ditto.

Myitchyv · 27/01/2022 07:35

Didn't receive a single gift off anyone. DH couldn't get out as shielding apparently but was perfectly able to order whatever she wanted.
DH took afternoon off to supposedly help with homeschooling our 2 neurodiverse dc.in s tusl fact he sat on his arse whilst I did a supermarket shop.
We ordered a takeaway. I laid the table etc and had the leave the cash in an envelope outside before they arrived. This stressed me out big time. I didn't really enjoy the takeaway and than ended up clearing the time. I left the washing up but it was still there next morning.
Not my worst Birthday overall. That was the year my mum died just before Mothers Day and my Birthday.

Myitchyv · 27/01/2022 07:37

He wanted. Cheers autocorrect.

Myitchyv · 27/01/2022 07:38

Table.

Myitchyv · 27/01/2022 07:39

Hope things are better for you now OP.

Polkadotties · 27/01/2022 07:54

@Polkadotties

My birthday is in April. In 2020 I went for a walk for one hour and 8 mins. I posted a screen shot of my Apple Watch to my instagram story and got a load of shit for going 8 minutes over the 1 hour limit. The 1 hour limit next existed!
Quoting myself. On my walk I went and saw my parents. I stood on their drive and went no where near them.
RussianSpy101 · 27/01/2022 07:59

Mine was august. I was on holiday in Greece 🎉

RussianSpy101 · 27/01/2022 08:02

@FrangipaniBlue you quite easily could’ve gotten a cake 🙄

middleager · 27/01/2022 08:15

I have twins and so we get one shot at birthdays a year.

In April 2020 it was their birthday. There was a shortage of ingredients, huge supermarket queues here in the West Midlands (my local store featured on the news as the queues to get in were like something from Glastonbury) and we were being told not to go out to supermarkets unnecessarily.

I started to squirrel away party snacks just in case, as there was such a shortage of basics here (my family in Bristol weren't experiencing the same, or massive queues, so they found this hard to comprehend) . Then I was ill, so ordered online and got some weird crappy cake sent through on home delivery, i as there were no birthday cakes available, no eggs, no flour either.

On their actual 14th birthday it was the four of us, no visitors or friends, just a zoom call with grandparents. The rules then meant we couldn't go anywhere other than a walk. Again.

We tried to make the most of it, but it wasn't what we planned. DH's birthday was three days' earlier so it was the same for that.

We were the muppets that stuck to the rules.

sachaf08 · 27/01/2022 08:25

I turned 30 in Nov 2020, I was 31 weeks pregnant and trying to stay away from covid at my parents’ house away from DP who was getting exposed at work every couple of weeks.It was pretty terrible tbh but I’m still v grateful that I had this option and didn’t catch covid in the third trimester!

ILookAtTheFloor · 27/01/2022 08:26

I was lucky, as my birthday is early March.

My sister's was the day that McDonald's re-opened, I remember that! More of a present for me than her though Grin it was her 30th which was shit, I sent her balloons.

Kayjay2018 · 27/01/2022 08:28

My birthday was in lockdown May 2020, spent in quite a bit of pain as I was in labour from before midnight to just before 8pm when I gave birth to my daughter. The pain part was pants, having my daughter arrive safely was amazing, sadly my husband could only stay 2 hours after she arrived and then didn't see us for 3 days until we were allowed home

HermioneGranger999 · 27/01/2022 08:34

My daughter's first birthday was April 2020. We had planned a family teddy bear's picnic. We did it at home instead just us and did a group video call for everyone to sing her Happy Birthday.

JustDanceAddict · 27/01/2022 08:38

My DCs had their 16th and 18th bdays in 2020. Not what they’d envisioned.
However we were lucky with the weather as even though it was only us for the 16th it was warm enough to sit outside in spring and have a bbq.
By the 18th, it was rule of 6 outside. so dd went to a park with friends. Same rules for mine, but weather was shite so was prob the most affected!!
Dh was lucky as we were between lockdowns so we went out w friends (inside/outside thing in pub!).
DS caught the tail end of lockdown 2 restrictions- weather was bloody freezing and not allowed inside so his friends came to shiver in the garden and got drunk to keep warm I think! Prob the most drunk I’ve seen DS as he’s not a big drinker.
I was very lucky this year as had a big bday that, although wasn’t the crazy party I was going to have, I managed to gather most of my friends to celebrate (no ‘rules’ but everyone still Covid nervous).
I’m so hoping DS celebrate his 18th this year - I might be nice and let him have a house party!!

wrigglewriggles · 27/01/2022 08:43

@Bearsbearsbears40

Flowers OP… 2020 was my 40th birthday year but most people didn’t remember. I know it was a pandemic and everything but a text or two on the big day might have been nice.
Same here. My (now ex) partner didn't even wish me happy birthday until I had a mini meltdown on him or get a cake (it's all about the cake for me) even though all our food shops were open and we didn't have restrictions on leaving the house. He thought putting candles on the cake that I made was enough of an effort.
Stillgoings · 27/01/2022 10:15

We are lucky and have late summer birthdays. I had a couple of friends round for mine. We had a Chinese takeaway in the garden. They were only allowed inside for the toilet and all the windows were open and wipes were provided for after useSmile.
My son had his 16th at the end of August. We had a night away in Scarborough which doubled as our holiday for the year. We went out for a meal under the eat out to help out scheme. We were impressed with the table spacing and masked waitresses and wished we had done more eating out to help out. It was a fantastic feeling enjoying that meal...but also a bit nervy and surreal..